How Big is Yours? (Part 2 of Self-Worth)

Speaker 1: Hey guys, thanks for listening to part one of how big is yours and your self-worth container, and this is now part two, because this podcast is going to be deep, and we will have part three, four and five of how big is yours, because the containers have to be larger. Speaker 2: Yeah, this is like a double meat A double meat cheeseburger. Yeah, it's like a double meat half pound cheeseburger. Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a juicy one. Thank you all for listening. Continue to tune in. And here is part two of how Big Is Yours. Speaker 2: Dumping it out and exploring what is actually in there, keeping what needs to stay or what you want to stay from a positive vibration and replacing the negative things with more positive vibration of allowing and knowing that you deserve. It's your birthright, it's your spiritual right to have any and everything that you want or desire. You just got to line up with the vibrational frequency of it. I agree, and a lot of people are going to be like, okay, whatever. Speaker 1: So when the self-worth cup gets full from the societal top beliefs and it shrinks as we believe them, it affects a lot of different parameters and other containers in our life, I believe. Speaker 2: Health money. Speaker 1: Health money, All of it. I have a whole list. Speaker 2: It's entangled with all of them actually it is Employment. It's probably what I would say, the core Container Place where everything else threads from. Yes, that's going to define what you're letting come into your reality as you create your reality, because if your self-worth is low, then you're going to only let in mediocre job, mediocre relationships, friend or romantic, mediocre amounts of money, mediocre wellness. I mean, it is entangled with every single aspect, and so that is the best place to start. Speaker 1: Yeah, and so what happens when our container's too small and our self-worth container is overrunning? We're in that deep spot. What do you suggest, dr Jenny? Where does somebody start to remove those from their container? Speaker 2: Well, again, everything is just self-awareness, embracing the fact that there's gotta be some legitimacy to what we're talking about. And if nothing else is working for you, why not try something different? Yes, even if you don't believe completely or at all what we're doing, but you're at that bottom of the bucket proverbial bottom of the bucket place, why not try something different and just see? And so again, if you're brand new at it, I always advise taking a writing device and a piece of paper or journal or something and writing it down and getting clear about what is the definition of self-worth? Secondary, what is my definition of my self-worth, my value, how do I define myself as that? And dig around in that and say you know, what is my definition? How do I value myself? Number one, what is my value definition? How do I value myself? Number one, what is my value? What makes me a valuable component in the world around me , in my own bubble? in society, some people they have to do you know okay. Well, I'm a, da da da, I'm a, I'm a degree holding, and that is my value in society. I am a housekeeper and I keep things clean and tidy and that is my value. And so in the new steps of it, when you're new, sometimes it has to be just that simple. Speaker 1: Right? No, I totally agree. We are in our age group. It was normal to hear stuff like you're not going to amount to nothing. I got told that. Speaker 2: Yeah, I got told that you're never going to amount to nothing. Speaker 1: You're not going to be any more than your parents were. Yeah, you're not going to be. You're not going to be better than the previous person, and I'm not saying that anybody's bad in my life. I'm just saying that I was told that specifically. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: And you know it kind of falls back on that marquee that we read in one of our podcasts about. Nothing changes until you start and when you can start identifying the thing that does not resonate with you the most. You know, like my thing was, I've always been kind of a fast talker and the one thing that really kept me in that negative vibration was my grandmother one time said to me you're such a fast talker that you can sell ice to Eskimos, but nobody's going to believe you do it. Your fast talking makes people uncomfortable and feel like that you're not trustworthy, and I took that on as real. Speaker 2: Yeah, very easy to do as a child or growing up, because you look to your guardians as being the foremost authority. Speaker 1: And so the trust aspect in my self-worth was not there because I believed this and I didn't even trust myself. It just compounded into nobody trusts me because I didn't trust myself, and that's the energy I put out. Speaker 2: That's right. Then that's the behavior, that's the action that you begin to put out and the universe says, okay, here's another spoonful. Speaker 1: Yeah, then your human starts actually fulfilling the prophecies. Speaker 2: That's right. Speaker 1: You do where nobody can trust you, and so it's just a cascading effect in your self-worth container, and that's what I would suggest to everybody is to find the one thing that you really just don't like about what you believe in yourself. Speaker 2: The burr under the saddle, so to speak, or this the sticker. Speaker 1: Right. The number one permission slip on my post-it note that I have on my mirror says I am trustworthy. Oh, yeah, yeah, the very first one, yeah, and you know that's a great practice to try the post-it note permission slip that you put on your mirror and every day write a different one and keep adding to the list. Like, I have the entire left side of my mirror almost filled with little blue post-it notes and it reminds me of who I'm wanting to be and how I'm emptying my self-worth container . Speaker 2: It's not very easy to clean, by the way. Speaker 1: Yeah, I know you don't clean it anyway. What are you talking about? Speaker 2: I would just suspect that it wouldn't be easy. I would just suspect. Speaker 1: You know that's where you start. I think is find that one biggest burr in your saddle. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: And start there and as that one releases, read that. Speaker 2: So how do you find that burr Permission to sleep every day? Speaker 1: I really just thought I'm trying to remember back to when I discovered that's what it was. I was fulfilling prophecies of my own beliefs human beliefs wasn't spiritual beliefs. I believed that I wasn't a trustworthy person and I wanted to be something different. And so I sat down and just got real with myself and realized that my trustworthiness, I didn't trust myself. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And so I had to change that and give myself permission to be trusted and trust others. Speaker 2: Right, yeah. So for me, when I made my list, when I went in and I defined, okay, what is my definition of myself, there were some that I wrote down and when I went back to read them they stuck out like the proverbial sore thumb. I was like, ooh, I do not like that one. Speaker 1: Yeah, that's not a bad idea. Speaker 2: That really agitates me when I go back and read it. So let's start there. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: Or ooh, that one really makes me feel blah. Speaker 1: You know, kind of do fall into place with this, when I realized that my worst self-worth was based around trust and I released it and I started working on that better, making better decisions. Where I didn't fulfill the prophecy of the beliefs, it started exposing other things to me. You know, like when I was a kid I was told I was slow. And then I had a math teacher named Velvet Ward God bless her soul. I was in her math class and she said this kid is not good, that's special needs kid, he does not need special education. And she sat down in front of the three people the three board members or whoever it was that made the decision and she said watch this. And she gave me like 150 math problems that I had to complete in 20 minutes or less and I had them done in like 12. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: You know, it started exposing those things where I remember those people saying I was special education, then I couldn't be trusted, and so I was. I went through my entire life trying to prove to everybody how good I am at math right, and so I gave myself permission to not have to prove myself to nobody yeah I don't have to prove myself to anybody. they can all go kick a bucket somewhere because my bucket's going to be bigger, yeah yeah, and become more trustworthy. Not have to prove myself. Right, I can be who I am. I can wear blue hair. I can have 19 million piercings . I can have tattoos everywhere. I can have plenty of money. Can you paint your toenails? I can paint my toenails. I can do anything I want. I don't have to prove myself to anybody. Speaker 2: That's right. Speaker 1: And I can do anything I want. I don't have to prove myself to anybody. That's right, and when you can get to that point where you find that first burr in your saddle is what worked for me. It changed my life. Speaker 2: It will, and it will unravel layer by layer, because your higher self knows where you're at, as far as what you feel like you can handle without becoming overwhelmed or too much, and so it will show you one piece at a time. If that's what you need, it'll show you two, ten, whatever it is that it knows that you can handle he, she, it, whatever. I think I remember, and so it will come across as kind of a layer thing, kind of like an onion. You'll hear the spiritual community community refer to it as it comes off in layers yeah, some of us are, you know, gi janes and it's like nope, give me the whole freaking onion, let's do it and take a big old bite we lay in the bathroom floor on the tile. Speaker 1: With stones all over you. Speaker 2: Yelling help. Wasabi I can't Because we choose that route. Sometimes you can go whatever route that you want to go, but I think that's a good understanding. I want to dial it down simplistically just a little bit . Speaker 1: Yes, do it please. I want to dial it down simplistically just a little bit . Speaker 2: Yes, do it please. So, and do some steps for those that are, because I want all different levels to be able to resonate with the information that we give. And even though you know we've been doing this for years, there may be some people tuning in that this is a brand new concept to them and I don't want to leave them wondering, okay, well then, what the hell do I do now ? What's the next step? And so I want to dial that down just a little bit. So, once you are consciously aware that your self-value definition or whatever, and you've written that down and defined it, and you find that one that really is bugging you, what do you do next? What are some of the techniques , what are some of the things that you can do next? To air, quote, clear that out of the way or relieve yourself of that belief. And in the early days, what I would do is, if I made a list like that, I would actually cross that belief or that statement out. It's a belief that you've taken on and make one line through it , don't scribble it, because you want to see what the existing belief was and then, out beside it, write a new belief that replaces that, and in what I used to do. So in the morning, when I woke up, I would remind myself of the belief that I let go of and the belief that's now replacing it and creating a habitual pattern, and so that's how I had to do it in the beginning. I had to remind myself of okay, what am I letting go of, in case it tried to pop back up. A belief is only a habit that we keep repeating. Speaker 1: That's how it becomes a belief. Speaker 2: Experience yes. So, whatever you physically, mentally, emotionally keep repeating will eventually become that belief, right? So then you have to practice a new habit to replace the old belief. Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember. Speaker 2: And I would read that when I went to bed. Sometimes I would need to read it throughout the day to remind myself if it was a really tough one or really deep-seated, and that's how I did it. Speaker 1: It is one step at a time, one thing at a time. Speaker 2: Yeah. So when I was brand new in really looking at myself, I did. I had to take one thing at a time and really kind of conceptualize it, digest it. I was still in that phase of do I really even believe that this is going to work? But I'd gotten to that place in my human world where humanness wasn't working for me either. Logic and that kind of stuff wasn't working. So that's why I said what do you have to lose if you're in that place? Because I was there. I had kind of turned all of this awakened stuff that I once knew I turned it off just because I couldn't figure out how to balance between the spiritual aspect of myself and the human aspect of you know, going to work every day and how am I going to pay all the bills and trying to raise the kids with the right ethics and values , and is this person happy? And making this person? And doing the laundry and doing the dishes and feeding the kids and going to the grocery store and making a living, all of that inundated me and took me away from the things that I knew at one point were real. Yeah, knew at one point were real, yeah, and now they had kind of become, oh, that's just imaginary crap, it doesn't work. I had covered all that up with all of this other stuff and forgot to remember that whatever I can dream about, whatever I can imagine, is not only okay but vibrationally I can bring that into my reality, is not only okay but vibrationally I can bring that into my reality. But I had to take baby steps because I was still very much in the scientific logic mind, because I started nursing whenever I was 22. And so I cut my teeth, basically my adult teeth, on science, and science can very much put you in that very logical analytical space and so you're taking baby steps on your self-worth container. Speaker 1: Yeah, okay right, identifying how to clear the beliefs that pop up, because man you went off in a rabbit hole right there I did, didn't I thank god, there's a leash on me you went down to write and scribble out your line all the way into your Somebody needed to hear that somewhere. Speaker 2: Somebody obviously needed to, because I went way down that rabbit hole for a minute. Thank God you've got a leash on me. I was like where are we? Speaker 1: going with this. That's what I was thinking in my head, but you know, you're right, I think a true and concise and clear, step-by-step process for helping to clear your self-worth container, because this podcast of how Big Is Yours is going to turn into multiple podcasts because we have subjects on every container that we're going to have to do. So we're going to stay on self-worth for today and the self-worth container. I started with asking myself why do I not feel good about myself? Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And I had a friend of mine tell me one time well, why do you, how do you not realize you're good? And he was talking about work, because I helped him do something and I got it done rapidly and very you know good. And he said when are you going to realize you're good? And he was talking about work. But to realize you're good, and he was talking about work. But to me it hit that inner belief system of being trustworthy. Speaker 2: That pinging point. Speaker 1: Yeah, it definitely pinged my bell that day and so it made me stop and I spent the next couple days, my days off, and I was set with myself. Some people, some people meditate. You know I like to work with my hands and so I do my meditation when I'm doing something with my hands and thinking when it, when it rang my bell of I know, when grandma told me that back then I had to stop and change it . Speaker 2: Not to throw grandma under the bus. Speaker 1: She's, she has passed anyway, so we can't throw her under the bus. She's already under the bus, somewhere deep like six feet. Speaker 2: And we're not saying by any means that our family members didn't have the best intentions for us? No, totally not, they're not bad people, or they raised us wrong, or whatever. They did the best they could with what they had. Speaker 1: Well, yeah, back then it was normal, that was normal stuff to say, like we had one of our senior ladies tell us yesterday that she was picking cotton with the slaves. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And when slaves got released, she didn't. She had to continue to pick cotton. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And so she was like, how come I didn't get to go, yeah? And so that was just how it was back then. Right, it's not so much. Speaker 2: And I'm not saying, accept it, but I'm saying that, just realize it, it's a good representation of how the operating systems in our mind, our mind, is the computer, the beliefs, patterns, programs. They need to be updated, constantly, update to the evolution and the growth of the individual. It's okay to update them. It doesn't mean that that experience has to be cataloged as negative and so I'm going to update it. It doesn't mean it has to say, oh, I was raised bad and it's all my parents fault, so I'm going to update, find your value . You have to ask yourself why do I allow people to judge me? Speaker 1: Why do I allow people to make negative comments to me ? Why do I allow all this in? And when you start realizing that you're allowing that in because you're self-assertive? worth container is small and filled with and filled with negative stuff Negative and when you start pulling those out, they expose themselves. So step one is is identifying that biggest. Burn your saddle, yeah, write it down. Whatever the process is, I use a post-it note system on my mirror in my bathroom, you, you, you use a journal, you know, whatever the your process is, identify that belief and then next step is to get rid of that belief. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And a lot of people do it in different ways. Speaker 2: Yeah, there's many different ways. In previous podcasts I talked about one of the ways I tried was writing it on a piece of paper and actually literally burning it, doing the whole, cross it out on a piece of paper , rewrite it, yeah, so that I'm kind of like rewriting history or rewriting my programming, my operating system. You know, if you can do it in your mind without writing it down and just be able to remind yourself okay, I'm not doing that anymore and I'm doing this. It can be that quick, I'm doing this. It can be that quick as you practice the process of rewriting a belief system. It can. You can get to a place where you don't have to write it down anymore. As you evolve into the process of changing beliefs, you can think about it, bring it up, rewrite it right quick, and then it's changed. Just that quick it can be if you allow it to be that quick, wad it up in a mental meditation and throw it over the cliff. Speaker 1: We did that for a while Through a guided meditation, or you know what I think would be a cool way of doing it nowadays? You know these little artistic stones that people are placing all around the country, that people are finding. Yeah, how cool would it be to put a negative belief on there that you had and throw that stone off in the river. Or, you know, set it somewhere else and if somebody wants to pick it up, they can't. Oh that's up to them, but it's still in there. It could be in their journey, you don't know. You know it could be a part of realization that somebody needs to expand as well. Maybe, you know, if somebody picks up a rock that says I am not trustworthy, if they pick it up and they read it, that could be them owning that spot of you know what? I'm not trustworthy. Why is this rock in my reality and it could open their door. Speaker 2: Or why did this stand out to me? Why did it? Speaker 1: stand out for me, you know, because I used to do that in wishing wells when I had negative stuff happen. I would take a piece of coin out of my pocket and I would imagine putting that belief on that coin and I'd throw that thing off in the water and into the wishing well. You know, I've done that as well. Speaker 2: I was going to say so as I evolved into my practice. I take stones that can take those beliefs and give it to the stone and let the stone process it. Speaker 1: And then put the stone at the moon. Speaker 2: The Selenite's a good one. Quartz is a good one. You can program it to anything. It runs our watches, for goodness sake. You can have a stone that's programmed to just take the negative beliefs and you kind of dump those or download those into it and allow it to process them and take them away. Speaker 1: Yeah. So I mean there's two or three examples on how you can get rid of that belief after you've identified it. Now we've got to refill it, we've got to expand that cup with a greater belief and greater energy and greater vibrational spot for expansion. You know like for me, I take my post-it note, I put it on my mirror and it says I am trustworthy, and I read it every day I am trustworthy, I am a trustworthy person. I am not going to make those, I am not going to allow that human taught belief back into my cup. You know that's because that's a crucial part of of allowing the cup to expand. And the more you do this with your beliefs, the more that cup will expand and the bigger it'll get Right. You know you'll go from a four ounce cup to a 10 gallon bucket or whatever. You know for a visual example that you can put in your head and you can do it pretty rapidly . Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, I agree. Speaker 1: And so now we figured out how to do it in a step-by-step process. You know, we have to realize that this self-worth container reflects upon the other containers that we're going to touch upon in probably the next podcast. Speaker 2: I just want to bring this back around as well, Just reminding everybody what's the gauge on this. You know, in the car, if you're low on fuel, you've got your F marker and your E marker and that's what tells you oh, I'm getting low on fuel. So, on beliefs, patterns and programs, the ultimate gauge, or the ultimate goal, is to find a feel-better place in it, and that's the frequency that you want to put out. Agreed, reading this still doesn't make me feel good when I think about it. Then there is still some polishing up or some tweaking to do on that For me. I ask the question of my spiritual counsel of, okay, what more is there for me to see, and then I just wait kind of for the answer. Not kind of. I wait for the answer and sometimes the information will pop up through. I'll see a book in a store and I've talked about this before. Or I like to get on YouTube and see what the noise is on YouTube videos or whatever, and a video will pop up and I'll be like, oh, that kind of dings a bell somewhere. Let me listen to this one, and in that will stand out very clearly some aspect of the question that I asked in an informative way, so it can come. The information can come in so many different ways. I'll pass somebody like this happens to James and I a lot All the time. Speaker 1: I was just thinking about that, where somebody walks up to us. Speaker 2: And we're just doing our thing and some random person will walk up and say something, and it'll be. I literally will hear a ping in my head and I'm like, oh okay, thank you, spirit, that's what I needed. Or like the other day, when you saw the billboard, it was like that proverbial bing. Speaker 1: Or that guy that walked up to us at the Home Depot parking lot. He just walked up and said you guys are beautiful and then walked off, just random out of the blue. Speaker 2: And so the information definitely can come from so many different places. It's just allowing yourself to understand that it doesn't have to come from a voice in your head, or it doesn't have to come from a specific place or a specific book. The answers are going to come from all around. Speaker 1: Pay attention to your environment. Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what keeps the interest going, and whether we want to understand it or believe it, or acknowledge it, we like the mystery of it. That's why we came here and are doing this partially. Is that we like the mystery of it, we like the miraculousness of it, yeah, and so opening up and embracing that again from a child's mind of ooh, this means I'm getting closer Right. Ooh, this means I'm colder, hotter, play games. Yeah, whatever makes you Reach out like with it Right, but the ultimate goal is getting yourself to a place of really feeling better about it. Speaker 1: Open the positive energy and let your vibration expand. Speaker 2: And ask yourself do I feel better about it? Am I putting that feel better frequency out there, Because sometimes that can be disguised. Speaker 1: Right I agree, right, I agree. Speaker 2: Like this morning's conversation between you and I. I didn't even realize that the topic of selling a couple of houses was disguised. I thought that selling them was actually the place of feeling better, but it was still disguised, as I just want to sell them, be done with them, because I'm tired of it feeling crappy, and so ultimately, I was still focused in on I don't want them anymore and that was the energy I was putting out, because if you're focused on what you don't want, you're going to get more of what you don't want. Correct, and I, subconsciously, was still doing that. Right, I didn't realize it. Speaker 1: And it doesn't release energy. Yeah, but I think we have a pretty good parameter set for your self-worth container and how to expand it. We want everybody out there to know that your self-worth, we think you're valuable, jenny, and I know that there's not a human on this earth that doesn't have value. Speaker 2: Yeah, everybody is part of the puzzle. Everybody is beautiful. Speaker 1: Y'all continue to live who you are inside of you. Be that person. You know I hear it all the time . Well, I say I hear it all the time. We have a lady that comes around our employment all the time, and one of the other people that are here was making a comment about her hair color, because she likes to wear blue hair or even green hair. I've seen her with pink hair and don't allow that negative vibrational energy into you. I don't care what your hair color is, I don't care what your eye color is, I don't care any of that, because you are valuable. You are a valuable person and if you'll go through these steps , you'll believe it too. Yep anyway. Speaker 2: Do you have anything else to add before? Speaker 1: we close this one out . You are a valuable person and if you'll go through these steps , you'll believe it too. Yep, anyway, do you have anything else to add before we close this one out? Speaker 2: No, every one of you are valuable and your key component to the whole big picture of this multiverse. Yep, you were designed to play a part in every aspect of it. Because what did they say? God don't make no junk. Speaker 1: God don't make no junk. God don't make no junk. Well, we appreciate you guys today and thank you for tuning in. This is part one of how Big Is Yours, and this one specifically is on your self-worth container . Speaker 2: Yeah, this was thick and meaty man. Speaker 1: Yeah, well, we've got a few more. We will touch on abundance or money. We'll talk on emotions. We'll talk on relationships more with your containers, and obviously, employment, you know, because a lot of people value themselves through their employment, which is we need to touch on that. Speaker 2: And I would say if there's other techniques that people are using that we didn't mention, you definitely can pop them in on the message to us and we'll share them on here. There's so many out there. Any other topics that you want to discuss? Please let us know. We'll talk about anything. Speaker 1: Yes, we will. We appreciate you all listening and stay tuned for more of how Big Is Yours? Speaker 2: Like subscribe share. Speaker 1: Hit that little bell Ding, because you know that's how we clear things Ding, and it'll give you the notifications when we post. We appreciate y'all, love you. Speaker 2: Peace. We'll see you next time, you.