Who Am I? The Mirror Question That Changes Everything

Speaker 1: Good morning everybody. Welcome back to the Spiritual Grind. We're in studio today with Dr Jenny and myself. Again, Good morning. We have a milestone that we reached. We do. Speaker 2: Yeah, a milestone. Speaker 1: Yep. Speaker 2: A mile is a long way 500 downloads oh really. Speaker 1: Yep, we had 500 downloads yesterday. Speaker 2: Oh, very nice. Speaker 1: So we're celebrating the 500 download. Speaker 2: Yeah, we're the 500 Club. Speaker 1: Yep, we are Very cool . We got the badge from Buzzsprout and everything yesterday. Speaker 2: Oh nice. Can we have an applause? Speaker 1: Yeah, we sure can. Speaker 2: I need you to get with it 500 downloads. Very nice. Speaker 1: Who would have thunk it? Speaker 2: Who would have thunk? Speaker 1: it. But here we are, another milestone, milestone. You ready for the milestone? Yeah my books on amazon oh applause oh yeah long time coming sales energy method. Get yours. It's a sales book that teaches you how to sell. You. Building relationships actually can be used for not just sales. It can be used for personal relationships that you need to work on and build. If you read, understand the entire book, you'll see that it's more than just a sales book . Speaker 2: It's it's a relationship building book of course I would agree with that 100. You can utilize the method in a multitude of ways in your in your personal life, in your business life, for sure. Speaker 1: I think you know there's going to be a series of books, and I think the one of the things I'll do is I'll actually put that on a uh in a little bit of a different format and put it out on a relationship book too, cause it's it's a great way to learn to build relationships. But Book 2 is going to be coming out here before long in the series, the Sales Energy Method, and I'm probably going to do an online seminar to teach people. Speaker 2: Nice. Speaker 1: And so it's going to be fun engaging and, man, it will change your life if you can learn to do the functions of it . Speaker 2: Right yeah. Speaker 1: It's a great way. It's a great way to operate life yeah, I think for my. Speaker 2: My commentary on it is you know, it goes back to kind of what we're trying to do here is take, take the human and teach them how to become more of their natural being, which is compassionate and loving, and connect energetically. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: Rather than living in an automatic robotic style. Speaker 1: I was pretty impressed by one of the guys I let read the partial manuscript and he said you know what I took away from that the most I was like what he said, realizing that everybody has common ground . Speaker 2: Exactly. Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, that's a good takeaway. That was unintentional, it wasn't even in there. But he was like, yeah, everybody has common ground one way or another. That's how we got into the seven degrees of Kevin Bacon conversation that day. But it's out there. It's called Sales Energy Method . That's how we got into the seven degrees of Kevin Bacon conversation that day. But it's a. It's out there. It's called sales energy method . It's on Kindle and Amazon. Check her out If you'd like to read it and leave me a review. I'd appreciate it. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: And if you got any questions, don't hesitate to give me a ring. A ling ding message. Speaker 2: Ring a ling ding. Speaker 1: My author page. You can message me through the author's page on amazon yeah and uh, you can see my beautifully, uh, uh. Ai generated photo that makes me look 20 years younger. I put my photo through ai and asked them as to do. All I did was tell them to smooth my skin and change the lighting, and it came up with this thing that looked like I was 20 years younger. Speaker 2: No, that's not all it did. I feel like it does not. Speaker 1: When I get a good picture, I'll change the photo. Speaker 2: I feel like it does not look like you at all. I'm like, who is this man? Speaker 1: But it brings me to my topic today. Speaker 2: Do tell. Speaker 1: Do you ever look in the mirror and say to yourself who am I? Speaker 2: All the time. Speaker 1: And when we do that, because this is where I'm at today, like this morning, I was in the shower. And when I'm in the shower, everybody probably knows by now that's when I kind of do my self-check work. And I have, over the course of my years, changed so many hats there's my S-hole going off. I have, over the course of my years, changed so many hats there's my S-hole going off Changed so many hats that sometimes you can make yourself not know who you are. Because here's the reality. I've been, oh my gosh. I have been a farm worker. I have been, over the course of the years, in sales. I've worked at insurance jobs. I've had manager jobs. I've owned my own business. I've had all these things throughout the course of the years. In sales. I've worked, you know, insurance jobs. I've had manager jobs. I've owned my own business. You know, I've had all these things throughout the course of the years. And here I am now a published author too, and I'm liking the author thing. It's really fun. You know, my life experience has been very vast in comparison to most people my age. I agree, and putting that down on paper is a very rewarding feeling. It feels good. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: And I hope that that book whoever, whenever, however, can change one person's life, then I've done my job Right, Because that's where I'm at with it, and so this morning I asked myself who am. I now, here I am. I'm in my 50s. Speaker 2: The beautiful thing about it is that you can be whoever you want. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: Identity can be whatever character you want to be now. Speaker 1: Yeah, you can be whatever noun or pronoun you want to be. Speaker 2: That's right. That's the beauty of it. And that picture last night really rattled that cage for me. Speaker 1: Yeah, I also. I was like was like, damn, that really don't look like me. But I was like I can see me in it, but I don't see me in it. You know what I mean yeah and and so it made me say to myself dang, is that how it saw me when I took that picture yeah, and I was like well, I don't see myself that way. Speaker 2: But who out there does? Speaker 1: Right. Speaker 2: Who's going to be able to look at that picture and say, oh, that looks exactly like you. Speaker 1: It removed every forehead wrinkle I had. Speaker 2: Because every perspective is looking through a different lens. Speaker 1: Right. Speaker 2: So you may very well look exactly like that to somebody somewhere. Speaker 1: Right. So I let one of the people that worked for this read the manuscript before I had published it. It was a partial manuscript and her response was I see this method of work in action every single day, but I give it to our other coworkerworker to read and with it this is what she said and I told her just imagine that it's not james writing that. Yeah, because you need to put yourself into the position and not imagine him doing it, but imagine yourself doing it. And I was like, well, that's great advice, but it but it comes down to that. How do they they see themselves ? How do you see yourself? How do I see myself? And it can be a deep rabbit hole. Speaker 2: Right and we talked about that a little bit this morning with me because I'm in this weird rabbit hole, because I'm going through a little phase in my life where I'm like what is my purpose exactly now? Speaker 1: She's so blind to her own purposes. Speaker 2: What is the point of all this? What is my purpose? What am I doing? Speaker 1: The faux pas request. What is my purpose? Speaker 2: And I, for a moment, am uncertain on what exactly I'm supposed to be doing. And you said to me you don't see what you do. And you're right, I can't see myself the way you see me. I don't see myself the way other people see me. I see myself completely different. I don't really see me doing much of anything, and so I've gotten a little bit confused on my journey along the way. So rediscovery I'm in a process of kind of a rediscovery of who I am now and what am I doing. Speaker 1: You're becoming an author as well. I am, yeah. Speaker 2: That's another hat you're going put on that head. Yeah, I reckon, but I mean, that's not really who, who I am no, I agree. I agree, that's who you're being at the moment that's one of the characters that I'm playing, but who am I in this? What am I? Speaker 1: in this play of life. Yeah, you know, what's really cool about it is, like you said, you don't have to label yourself, right, you can be whoever you want to be whenever you want to be it exactly and that's okay to do. and so when you look at yourself like you know, you know we used to hear this a lot from people, from our peers, you know, when we were younger is, you know, back in the day when we were in high school, it was about go out and be, go get your degree in business and go get your degree in accounting. And then the market got so saturated with degrees and those degrees are useless anymore. And then it went into the tech schools and then it went into the other things. And when you go to and then you run into those old people from high school and they're not happy with who they are, where they are, and it can be, it can be an eye opening experience. Because they were so focused on what they society taught them they were supposed to be, they quit being who they are. Speaker 2: Yes. Speaker 1: And finding their own inner talents Right and manifesting those. And finding their own inner talents Right and manifesting those. And man, it's been a pretty fun journey for me these last few weeks of doing this writing and being able to experience that I am being, right now, a writer. I guess tomorrow I can go be a diesel mechanic. Speaker 2: Yeah, and I feel like the journey that I'm on it's not about me not knowing who I am. It's about figuring out what character I want to play now. Speaker 1: Yeah, and one of the things that made me write this book, write this book was and the reason why I'm still bringing it up is because there's things that's helping me go through this process that come up is the other day I got asked by my intern so how many sales have you done in your career with this company? Speaker 2: Oh, with the company. Okay, I was going to say wow. Does he mean like in your whole life? Speaker 1: And so I was like, hmm, it's a very good question. So I went back and looked, because I know what I did at the last property. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And so I went back and looked here and I officially hit 455 sales. Speaker 2: In just this building or across your total career for this company. Speaker 1: And that generates a revenue of $151 million. Speaker 2: Yeah, you put some figures out there. In the last podcast we did. Speaker 1: Wow, what a big statement You'd put some figures out there in the last podcast we did Wow, what a big, what a big statement Um cause that that's a very valuable tool to have. And realizing that if you can do that kind of stuff, the commissions and the money is nice and you can, and what's really cool about it is you develop some really cool relationships along the way, and then you identify and then you identify. I'm not taking it down that road. Speaker 2: Just jabbing with you . Speaker 1: And then you identify yourself as as wow, you know I have been pretty successful in this Cause. I just been having fun. You know I love sales. I loved it in the sales part. I always loved selling, and no matter what, in my own business and when I was selling insurance when I was, when I did part-time car sales, when I when I drove for Schwann's on the weekends. You know there was many things that I've done along the way as second jobs that I enjoyed more than I did my full-time job. It's a lot of fun. I love selling things because I think the best part of it for me is the relationships that you build. I remember when I was writing this book. I remember back when I was doing Schwann's on Saturday, every other Saturday actually. I remember back when I was doing Schwan's on Saturday every other Saturday. Actually that's where the end of the home Schwan's was the what's that Instacart of the 80s and 90s where they come to your door and bring food to your door. You can order right there out of the catalog. Speaker 2: Yeah, the kids love the chicken. Speaker 1: The chicken nuggets Strips, yeah. The chicken strips and I could go to any of my customers because I'd get to know them in a, at a personal level, just by talking to them along the way. Blah, blah, blah. I could be like, if we had contests, I could go to them and say, hey, I got a contest, what are we gonna do today? And they'd be like, well, what's your goal, you know? And I'm like, okay, I got to reach this dollar amount today. Blah, blah, blah. And they would always help me out with it because of the relationship, right and it and it. Speaker 2: It creates a camaraderie, camaraderie yeah, definitely a co-purpose in creating success yeah, and that's where co-creation at its best and that's what I discovered this morning in the shower is who I am is. Speaker 1: I am that guy that can show people how to do that in their life. Speaker 2: Do you have two thumbs? Speaker 1: who has two thumbs and can do that? Speaker 2: this guy if we had video up and running you would have seen this big cheshire cat, grand, and two thumbs go up but uh, so that's where it's. Speaker 1: It was kind of an epiphanal thing for me, because I don't have to go through my life trying to be what everybody else wants me to be. I can go through my life being what I want to be Absolutely. Now there are times in your life when you agree to do things that you have to kind of morph into being something that somebody else wants you to be, when you have a mutual agreement . Speaker 2: But you can still find a way to be yourself within it, absolutely. Speaker 1: I agree, and that's where my discovery process has been going lately. And then it's kind of funny because it fell right into place when we had the conversation about you this morning. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: And yesterday, you know, when you asked me. I don't know what my purpose is anymore and it's obvious to me and probably everybody around you. If you were to go up and ask them what you do for them, they would tell you all the same thing and you, identifying that, they're all going to tell you that you create a stability and intelligence level that gives them the confidence to be who they are Pretty much, and you will also chastise them when they get out of line. Speaker 2: I don't chastise, that's kind of a hard word. I just maintain accountability, like I'm gonna call you on your shenanigans yeah, I. I mean, if you come to me asking a question, make sure you want the answer, and I always ask that first, because I'm going to pull out those things that you're not being accountable for. Speaker 1: And remove all filters. Speaker 2: And sometimes they're uncomfortable and people don't like it, but that's just who I am. Speaker 1: That's just what I do . Oh wait a minute. That's what. That's just part of what I do. That's who you are. It's part of what I do, I agree . Speaker 2: It's kind of like when you have a thorn stuck in your foot. It hurts like hell when you pull it out and it hurts like hell with it being in there but it sure feels good when it comes out golly gee, it feels really amazing whenever you get it out yeah, and you may have to dig a little bit and the digging is excruciating, but when you finally get it out the relief is just amazing. And working on all of these different things we've talked about in our podcasts are kind of that way Agreed. It is uncomfortable to have me help you dig that thorn out. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: But once we do, it's life changing. Speaker 1: So your purpose is a shovel, I guess I don't know. Have me help you dig that thorn out. Yeah, but once we do, it's life changing. Speaker 2: So your purpose is a shovel, I guess, I don't know. Speaker 1: I guess I'm just one big shovel. Speaker 2: A shit shoveler. Speaker 1: Yeah, that's kind of crazy. You bring the shit right out. I bring the shit out, man. And so when you are out there and if you're going through the same kind of dilemma, you know it's okay to answer yourself, truly, ask yourself the questions of what is my purpose today? What is what? What is it that I'm going to bring to the table to this universe today? What am I going to learn today? You know what? What part of what script am I going to be involved in today? it's okay to do that yeah, 100 and come up with a good, solid daily ritual that'll do that and that will give you a not saying it's going to give you right away it. Can you know your explanation of who you are right there, but it will develop over time and know that you need to be who you are and not what everybody else wants you or you think everybody else wants you to be. Speaker 2: Yeah, and some of the questions that you can ask to set yourself up to receive the information that is always being given to you, whether you can hear it, see it or not, would be these, and this is what works for me. So, when I find myself in the place that I'm at now, before I go out into the world, I say to myself okay, I'm a little confused about what my purpose is, so please reveal to me what is my purpose today and help me see that and remove any beliefs, patterns or programs that might be in the way that would prevent me from being able to see what you're trying to show me. Speaker 1: Agreed. Speaker 2: And kind of word it in that way, and then just pay attention to when you go out and also, you know, putting in there that your intention, because you want to set clear intentions. My intention is to go through my day rediscovering what my purpose is, in alignment with my enjoyment, without expectation of how it must look. That's how I go about it, and so then what happens is I will go out without really any expectation, I'll go out of my door and inevitably what happens is, you know, something will happen, somebody will come along and I'll have an interaction and it will end up being a very fulfilling or very fun interaction. And it will end up being a very fulfilling or very fun interaction, whether it be with you as my human or stranger or another person, and it validates what my purpose was today. And then I'm like, oh okay, that was my purpose today. All right done, I can go home now and knit on go home Knit on my couch. Speaker 1: Knit crochet. Crochet me a sweater. Crochet you some Well you know, what I see a lot of is people that get confused about life and they confuse systematically, confuse, systematically confused . I want to say it systematically because I see it a ton where situations will happen and they systematically change who they are because of an instance. Speaker 2: Yeah, that is a trip up place. You begin to change who you are because you think you've got to look a certain way, you've got to be a certain way you've got to act a certain way. Nine times out of 10, you're doing it not because that's what really must happen, but because that's a story that you've told yourself based on how you think somebody else sees you or is interpreting you Right, sees you or is interpreting you right, and that story is usually not correct. Correct story is usually a lie, because you've not. I promise you, if you go to that person and you ask them I think you think this about me, is that true? They will let you know that. Oh my God, no, that's a farthest thing from what I was thinking in the first place, and so then you can get to a place where you're like you fucking monkey mind, I'm going to kick your ass . Speaker 1: There's a banana. Shut up, beep, beep. Speaker 2: And then you realize that you know, your monkey mind is telling you stories that are not even true. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: And you're creating an entire reality based on a lie or a mystery. Speaker 1: Yeah, it can be from many things from your beliefs, historical, from society. Speaker 2: Exactly. We are such firm believers on working with your belief system and that structure and making sure that you've got a really clean template that you're coming from, especially whenever you view your reality and you think, golly, this is not where I thought I was going to be, I'm fed up, I'm tired of it. When you talk about recreating a new reality. You talk about recreating a new reality. It's just really important to make sure your definitions are up to speed, make sure your beliefs are up to speed, update your processing system and find that steps or, um, whatever that procedure looks like for you yeah whatever permission slips you need to put in place, whatever fairy tells you need to temporarily put in place is just as valid, and so let me go here for a second okay real quick. No, you're good I will pretend, fuck, he just hit his funny bone and it's not funny at all on the table go ahead. Sorry, didn't mean to interrupt you if it's okay for your monkey mind to tell you a lie about what you think somebody else thinks about you, then it is okay for you to counter that lie with a made-up daydream, if you will, to make it feel better . Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. Speaker 2: And it doesn't necessarily have to be categorized as a lie. It can be categorized as well. This is what I am going to create in my fairytale bubble of playing the game, like I've said before Okay, what if? What if life looked like this, and then follow that and hold on to that for a minute. It's not a lie. It's playing the what if game of creating that reality that you would really like to see come into existence. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: It's a really good game. It's a really fun game. Speaker 1: Yeah, I can see where it'd be really fun. Speaker 2: And allowing yourself to be childlike in it and daydream man Pretend. Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, that's a really good example, actually, of what happened in explaining just that. I had somebody come up to me and said, hey, this guy or this person wants me to. She was talking about her son. Her son wants to be her POA, wants to take over her finances and stuff. My son wants me to do this. And I said, well, so imagine this. Imagine that he has full control, because she was going the opposite with it. He just wants the money to see where it is, so he can, you know , blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, going through all this negative stuff. I said, well, imagine this Right, make it okay, imagine the good parts. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And make it more about who it is that you want to be in it, not about who you think everybody thinks you should be in it. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And create a better story and see how that feels, create a little bit of a pendulum effect within that monkey mind belief. Speaker 2: Yeah, look at the other side of the coin. Yep, if you're going to look at the negative side of it, then take it to the opposite extreme. Speaker 1: Yep, that's the same thing with self-purpose. If your monkey mind's telling you all right this, then pendulum it. Speaker 2: Well, yeah, and I mean my purpose is to just be, I know that. Speaker 1: Yep, just keep doing, you baby. Speaker 2: But sometimes, you know, we have human elements that pop up. Oh yeah totally, and I'm no different than anybody else. So sharing that I hope helps keep it real. You know what I mean, Because my poop stinks just like everybody else's. Speaker 1: Yes, it does no-transcript. You know, to kind of I don't remember what I'm trying to say the word, what word am I looking for to add to that? Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious . Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it, you know. Spell it and put it in a sentence, please, and put it in his foot and sleaze. To add to what you were saying is, a lot of the times we will get little trip up areas when we're trying to do that because there's beliefs that get in the way. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: When you're trying to find a more positive. Well, I did that before and this happened. Or I did that before? Speaker 2: and this happened Right. Speaker 1: You've got to allow those beliefs just to release as you do it. And what is it going to hurt? I say that all the time. What's it going to hurt? Speaker 2: Yeah, Right, Because the mechanism. So sometimes what happens, especially when you see repetitive things in your life? Why am I repeating this? People get very annoyed and very aggravated. Why? Is this here again. I thought I cleared it and you did clear it, but the universe is giving you an opportunity to re-experience it so that you can create a positive file. Speaker 1: A new history that counteracts the negative experience. Correct. Speaker 2: So that you've got both to pull on as you go along your journey, doing additional things that are branches off of that. Correct, because if you're trying to go in a direction, but you need both the positive experience and the negative experience to pull on out of those proverbial files, but you don't have a positive experience to match the negative experience to pull on out of those proverbial files, but you don't have a positive experience to match the negative one, sometimes you'll be sent down that same path, or what feels like that same path, not to re-experience the negative aspect of it, because you've already done that, but for it to turn into a positive outcome to counterbalance the negative outcome, so that you have both file folders to pull from for the next phase of your evolution , your journey, your experience. You need both, but your higher self knows that and so not don't get tangled up and frustrated on damn, why is this happening again? Right, maybe look at it from that place. Speaker 1: You know, when I hear the tools like, there's this really famous talk show TV host that always says the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior and he's using that in a negative way. Speaker 2: Jerry Springer with the guy that has no legs. Speaker 1: No, and I don't want to say his name on here, but the . He uses that in a negative way because, like when he uses it on a show, he uses it in the. Normally you're like with cheating husbands or whatever that is, but really you can look at it with yourself too. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, unless you change the belief. Right, exactly, and so, but it'll give you an investigative tool to say why am I doing this? Because this was predictable, because it's happened before, and you can look at it in a way. If you stop and say, okay, so why is it doing it, then you can . It's easier to find a step-by-step process for you to understand what's causing you to do this. Because we create our reality and if you don't change the history, you can't change the future. Because of beliefs. Speaker 2: Yeah so. Speaker 1: Kind of. Speaker 2: Rabbit hole. Speaker 1: Yeah, kind of. Speaker 2: You actually are. Speaker 1: Dun, dun dun. Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm trying to decide if I want to go in that direction. Speaker 1: Oh, is your blinker on. Speaker 2: I'm going to change directions. Speaker 1: Okay, we're going to go the other way. Speaker 2: Yeah, we're going to go the other way, so carry on. Speaker 1: Okay, carry on my wayward side. Oh, and so when you stop and look at it and things are happening, you don't like remember that. That is true. It is true for the best predictor of future behavior to be past behavior is because we don't look at the true story or the beliefs, patterns and programs behind the historical event. And, like you said, the universe will put things out there to give you the opportunity to change history and change the belief behind it. Right? Speaker 2: Yes. Speaker 1: You got quiet on me. Speaker 2: You disconnected. Speaker 1: Did you lose your channel? Do you need? Speaker 2: to go on it. I need one of the kids to change the channel and hold the bunny ears. Speaker 1: You lost the channel. Speaker 2: No, I was listening. Speaker 1: And. Speaker 2: I was waiting to see if you what you were gonna say do you agree with what I said? Um yeah so you're not creating history you're well every the minute you're done with it. It's created you're when you live. You live in the present moment. You're choosing to bring history with you. Like the past is already done Right and you're a new person in every second Agreed person in every second agreed and because of that, you're choosing whether you bring the past into this new reality with you or if you create a new agreed future, so to speak, right. I agree with what you're saying I know, but I'm trying to make it to where the they out there kind of understands what I'm trying to say. Speaker 1: Okay. Speaker 2: The past is not your past. It's not where you create from. That's already done and over with. Speaker 1: I agree. Speaker 2: Unless you make an actual concerted choice. Effort to purposely bring that crap with you. Effort to purposely bring that crap with you. And if you are, by evidence of feeling like you're repeating, then you've got to ask yourself what is it that I have to believe to be true for this to continue to be something that I'm bringing over into this reality with me from the stinking past? Why am I not letting go of this luggage and leaving it there? It obviously is still serving some sort of purpose for me, or I believe that it is. Speaker 1: Right. Speaker 2: Because you're actually creating the reality from a future standpoint. Speaker 1: Yes. Speaker 2: So the reality that you're in now came from you daydreaming about how you want your reality to be. Speaker 1: Yes. Speaker 2: Not how it was necessarily. Speaker 1: Agreed. Speaker 2: And that's how you become who. You are right this minute. It's from the future, not from the past agreed and when you get tired of lugging that past luggage around, you'll let go of it and release it yes there you have it there you have it, my job here is done. Speaker 1: And you know that is a very solid way of looking at it. You know, and that's what I was bringing up about, the phrase is because when people aren't as solid in their spiritual work yet, Solid as a rock. You know, I was hoping that phrase would create that doorway for them to go to there. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And I hope that that's what they understand. This is about identifying what we don't want and what we do want, and the contrast between it. Speaker 2: And you said it perfectly. What do you have to lose? Speaker 1: Right. What do you have to lose? Speaker 2: I mean start creating your reality from the future. Who is it that I want to be? What do I want to experience? Daydream about that and then start doing the steps that that person would do if you were already doing it. Speaker 1: Correct. Speaker 2: And let go of the past nonsense that's not serving you. If you truly want to come out of that loop hole or that, um, I don't know that. Just I'm tired of it like drop the luggage, leave it behind and start daydreaming about who it is you want to be now right agreed, or what character do you want to play? What do you want to do now? What do you want to do now and give yourself permission to do it. Speaker 1: Yeah, and so that's actually where I was taking this podcast to right. There is when you look in the mirror or you're asking yourself who you are, what am I, what is my purpose, where you just have to know that that is literally, and always will be, an ever-changing thing it's an open book man yeah, you can be whatever you want to be. So you have to ask yourself change it. From who am I, what am I to? To who do I want to be, what do I want to be, and create that world what am I giving myself permission to be? That's right, or? Speaker 2: to do or to have. Speaker 1: Because my truth is this, and my truth is that and so that's where you need to go with it. Who cares about the past? You can't go back and change it . You can only when things pop up from your past. Yeah, you need to handle them, but you can't change the past. You can only change the future, and so why not? Speaker 2: Right, exactly. Why not? Right, exactly? You know, put that out there, let it be. And if you've got, if you've got yourself stuck on not allowing yourself to go and explore that little daydream, figure out why, correct, why. Why are you not allowing yourself to? Is it because you have some sort of stinking thing stuck in your crawl that says, oh, I'm not good enough, or who's gonna read my book, or what? I don't have the money to do that. But I'm here to tell you that. You know, one of the things that I can share with you is neither one neither james or myself, sat down in our life thus far and said you know what, one day I'm going to be an author. We can honestly say that that's not ever been in my journey. Speaker 1: I have been thinking about it for, like the last year you have. Speaker 2: But not like whenever your parents or somebody came up to you and said what do you want to be, little boy? I want to be an author. Speaker 1: I said firefighter. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And I did that and hated it. I did it for everybody, like six months, seven months, but I hated it. I was a volunteer firefighter. I hated it. Speaker 2: And we just came to a place where we followed the steps and we get inquisitive about what are the possibilities , what is the next thing that we want to do? That sounds fun and we just kind of go with it. Yep, and we came across. I don't even remember, honestly , at this point, how the book journey started, but we just followed the next best thing and the next thing the what the next best thing and we find ourselves here doing this next thing. Speaker 1: You know you're doing podcasts, writing books, teaching people everything you know yeah, and you just take it one step at a time. Speaker 2: if we had looked, looked at like, for example, a podcast, if we had looked at the whole construct of what it took to get us to the 500 download and we were like, okay, we don't really know what this looks like, we think it would be fun. Speaker 1: Right and the podcast according to their records is growing and we have no advertising at all. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And it's growing. Speaker 2: In a very rapid state . Speaker 1: Faster than most podcasts. Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, faster than most podcasts, yeah, yeah, but the but. I can remember the first thing that we did when we when we both decided that we were going to do a podcast, is that we went and looked at the equipment. Speaker 1: Yeah, we just went and did it. Speaker 2: We just decided okay, you know what we're doing this, so we went to. Best Buy and you had done research on what the best equipment was to do it yes, let's start that with you, and so that was the first thing. Speaker 1: Is that we? Speaker 2: went and we bought the equipment and we started playing with the equipment and we got comfortable. We got all that set up and we started playing with the equipment yep we recorded a couple of podcasts before we even had, like, our computer platform and all of that, oh, yeah, yeah yeah, set up, and so we didn't really even have a place to send our recordings. We just did it because we were playing with the equipment and getting used to it. Speaker 1: Yep agreed. Speaker 2: And then from there it inspired you to go on and create our first platform. Speaker 1: Yep agreed so then we spent. Speaker 2: I'll say we, because you know we are we but, the reality is is you spent countless hours editing? Oh yes, and figuring out how to edit because that was a learning curve and so hours on hours. They didn't do that in school yeah, and I would sit here and I would watch you, and we'd listen to it, and I would watch you edit this piece out and edit that piece out and I would say oh, you know what, can we get rid of that little section? Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: It sounds better if you do that, and we would spend hours and hours and hours doing that, but that's just what we did at the time. Yeah, I don't think people understand what goes into a podcast man, some of this stuff is really editing of course. Speaker 1: I heard nowadays ai is doing a lot of it. Speaker 2: Yeah, we have an individual now that we hired and she's amazing, and but but two, even that we did it ourselves for a good long while yeah and then brought that person into our reality and we were like hey , we need some help hey, can you do this? We're staying up till like midnight one o'clock editing and you know, we do podcasts, we do one every wednesday, we do a podcast saturdays at time we were actually doing two or three , yeah, every single week plus editing all of that, and had we looked at that, on the big scheme of things we could have become overwhelmed. Speaker 1: Oh yeah, totally and quit. Speaker 2: And so what I'm trying to convey to everybody is break it down into small little pieces and just follow the next interesting thing, and don't have an insistence on what it looks like. There was nothing, you know, in the beginning with our podcast. We had not even come to a place yet where we decided that we were going to upload these guys. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: As a matter of fact, there's some I think, there's one or two in there that we'd never even uploaded. Speaker 1: Yeah, we had like 14. Speaker 2: Because they're, you know, they're kind of out there. Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: And not only that, but they're kind of a hot mess or what we view as a hot mess. But that's what I would say is, when you think about changing your reality and doing something far-fetched, so to speak, or way far out there, don't look at the whole big picture. Take one little baby step and do that. I agree, even if it's just research and read about whatever . Just take that baby step. And be open to it, and then the momentum will begin to build, because you'll take that step and be open to it, and then the the momentum will begin to build . Yeah, because you'll take that step and and sometimes just reading about that portion of it gives you the confidence to take the next step. Agreed, and the energy builds and then you take the next step and you're like you know what, let me go buy the equipment, because I have an extra 20 bucks . I can go buy whatever, yeah, whatever it is, you know, take that next baby step. Speaker 1: Yeah, take the step. I agree, totally agree with you . Speaker 2: Even like with the writing of the book. Speaker 1: What could? Speaker 2: hurt the components of it. At first I started with free versions of different things and platforms that helped me do grammar check and helped me do the vocabulary, part of it, and now I just send it over to our editor and she does it for me. It's quite awesome. It is, it is amazing. Speaker 1: It's fun, but anyway, let the flow go. It's really about the flow of energy and just allowing it to be. Anybody can be anything that they allow themselves to be. Speaker 2: As long as you give yourself permission to do it, only the amount of road in front of you that the lights the headlights illuminate. Speaker 1: 50 feet, 50 to 100 feet. Yeah. Speaker 2: You're literally driving 50 foot at a time. Speaker 1: That's a good analogy . Speaker 2: And so if you can take your life and break it down like that, what's the next 50 feet? Speaker 1: Yeah. Speaker 2: What's the next 50 feet and stop trying to look past your headlights. Speaker 1: Like it. Speaker 2: Stay within that headlight realm and do the next best thing, and the next best thing Like it, which brings us back to live in the now. Speaker 1: What is it? Speaker 2: that I need to do right now. Even if life feels chaotic and it feels fight or flight and you have a problem in front of you that you've got to deal with, stop and ask yourself okay, you know what, Take a calm breath. What is it that I need? What's the next best thing that I need to do? What is it that I need to do right this minute? Speaker 1: Yep, like it and then do it. Speaker 2: And then do it, and next thing you know you look up and you're doing it, and then do it, and then do it. And next thing, you know you look up and you're doing it, yep , and you're a published author. Speaker 1: Look at me. Am I doing it? I'm doing it or you've reached 500 downloads on your podcast. Yep. Speaker 2: And you look back and you say yeah, I followed the steps, one step at a time. And here we are. Nice Love it and you become that what you daydreamed about. And it's fun, and you're doing it and it's amazing. Speaker 1: It's a fun way to do it. Speaker 2: Of course. Speaker 1: I feel complete. Do you feel complete? Speaker 2: I always feel complete. Speaker 1: Well, we appreciate you guys for listening. Hey, don't forget to like, follow and share, and hit our website up wwwthemerccentersorg. And don't forget my book's on sale now on Amazon and on Kindle . It's the Sales Energy Method Mastering the Transformation. And it's not just a sales book. You can use it for everyday relationships. Speaker 2: That's right, and stop holding yourselves back Yep . Speaker 1: Don't hold yourself back anymore. Realize your abilities. Speaker 2: Somebody out there is waiting for what you have to offer. Speaker 1: That's correct, hey, uh, don't forget to ring that bell. We hope y'all have an awesome day. Speaker 2: Love you. We'll see you next time.