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SPEAKER_04: Good morning,
everybody.
Welcome back to the spiritual
grind.
SPEAKER_00: Good morning.
SPEAKER_04: Thank you all for
listening.
SPEAKER_00: Well, how's your
morning going?
Absolutely wonderful.
Got to sit by my lake and enjoy
in the nature.
SPEAKER_04: I had some sunshine
this morning, finally.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: It's been like a
week.
SPEAKER_00: I know.
Everything's soggy bottom.
SPEAKER_04: My tan is fading.
Good morning, and uh quick shout
out to uh Greenhouse Yoga.
We're gonna be housing our
workshop on October 10th, 11th,
and 12th, hosting it for us.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Uh that's uh
Greenhouse Yoga that is in Port
Orange at 4606 Clyde Morris
Boulevard.
And uh you can That's in
Florida.
That is in Florida.
That is in Port Orange, Florida.
If you would like to attend the
workshop, then you send me an
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Merccenters.org, or uh you can
send us a text or even call us
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It is sixty dollars a head for
the entire three-day workshop.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
SPEAKER_04: So it's gonna be and
it's gonna be very enlightening.
It's called the power of
thought.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's a good
workshop.
SPEAKER_04: It is.
It's gonna be the I don't even
know how many times I presented
this workshop.
But it's been a been a few.
SPEAKER_01: For sure.
SPEAKER_04: It's gonna be
successful again.
Anyway, so got a good topic for
today.
SPEAKER_00: Alright.
SPEAKER_04: I've been dying to
go down the rabbit hole on some
topic, so Well, I don't know if
well, knowing you, you'll you'll
find a place to jump off in that
hole somewhere.
SPEAKER_00: I've been needing to
jump off in the rabbit hole.
I just haven't been given the
topic.
SPEAKER_04: Well, I don't know
if this one will do it or not,
but it's a good topic, and I
think it's very informative for
people.
Okay.
Matter of fact, we were working
on it with you earlier, and I
had this thought in mind prior
to you even bringing up the
topic this morning.
SPEAKER_00: It usually does work
that way, right?
SPEAKER_04: Yes, it does.
Because, you know, and here is
the topic.
Are you allowing a fear or an
unknown or a hesitation to not
allow balance into traumatic
events in your life?
SPEAKER_00: Uh so can you say it
differently?
Oh I'm confused.
SPEAKER_04: Well, like say for
this is say for example.
SPEAKER_00: Okay.
SPEAKER_04: Um I don't know why
this is coming in mind, but you
have a car accident.
SPEAKER_02: Okay.
SPEAKER_04: And you now have a
continuous fear of being in
another car accident.
SPEAKER_02: Okay.
SPEAKER_04: No matter if it was
your fault, somebody else's
fault, just weird happenstance,
whatever that is, do you carry
that fear of the car accident
happening again and not allowing
it to be okay if it does?
And so, because we have as
humans, we get this idea that
when something happens traumatic
to us, we must hang on to it and
completely pendulum to the other
side and be like, okay, I'm not
gonna allow this to happen in my
life again.
This is not gonna happen.
SPEAKER_00: And so, what are you
saying is the outcome of doing
it that way?
SPEAKER_04: Um, it doesn't
release the energy.
You're hanging on to that
energy.
SPEAKER_00: Right, but then what
happens in your reality?
How does your reality look?
SPEAKER_04: Well, when you when
you hang on to an energy, we all
know what you think about, you
bring about, and it will feed
back into your reality if you if
you continue to hang on to that
traumatic energy.
SPEAKER_00: Okay, well, I was
trying to get you go in a
different direction.
SPEAKER_04: Okay, well, but then
just say it.
SPEAKER_00: No, I was just
saying if you were gonna go
there.
Because what it can also do is
prevent you from being able to
rewrite the story.
SPEAKER_04: Yes, that's a good
yes, that's where you're trying
to get me to go.
SPEAKER_00: If yeah, if you're
hanging on to the story of the
traumatic event, and that's how
you're living your life, you
won't allow yourself to open up
to the multiple possibilities of
how the life could look in that
topic.
SPEAKER_04: Yep.
SPEAKER_00: Because you're just
closed off and so concentrating
on preventing the trauma from
happening again that you're even
closed yourself off to the good
side of the coin of how things
could look.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
Like a lot of people have a
tendency to the only thing they
remember is the bad part.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
And so, like we use your uh car
accident um illustration is just
use my real one.
If well, let me just go in this
direction right quick, just to
clarify.
If you have the accident at the
corner of uh, I don't know, Bay
and Crown Street.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
What what odd names?
How did you randomly come up
with those names?
Bay and Crown.
SPEAKER_00: It's not me.
Yeah, it's a channel, and you're
terrified of going to that
corner, and there's now a fall
festival going on in that
section, and there's an item
that you've asked for that you
need and want, and spirits put
that together divinely so so
that you can interact with not
only the human that has it, but
having the thing that you've
asked for.
But you are absolutely hell-bent
on never going to that corner
again because you're carrying
the trauma of the accident with
you and not and trying to
control not having an accident
again by eliminating even going
to that neighborhood.
Right, then you will completely
miss out on the divine input of
having the very thing that
you've asked for.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
SPEAKER_00: Because the market's
on that corner, then you see how
it would create blocks of you
being able to see or hear or
follow the breadcrumbs of
something that you're asking for
and how it could intertwine
rabbit hole kind of thing.
SPEAKER_04: Well, I'd say, you
know, I did that exact thing
when I had the traumatic events
when I when I was younger, which
the details of how we will will
be released in my book called
Unlocked.
There was a traumatic event that
happened to me when I was
twenty, nineteen.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And I didn't go back
to that spot until you and I
went, what, eight or nine years
ago.
I didn't go back to it for over
thirty years.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Or for I guess
probably twenty-five years.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: I refused to go back
to that spot, even though it was
a completely random event that
happened.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: And I had been to
that spot a hundred times.
But the only thing I remembered
was the bad thing.
Right.
And and I used to have a ton of
fun there.
I mean, I used to enjoy myself
there.
And that's what we do with
traumatic events, is we remember
only the negatives.
And like even bad relationships,
you'll only remember the
negatives because of how it
ended.
unknown: Right.
SPEAKER_04: Instead of the
positives of what what went on
and why you were in this
relationship for so long.
And so we become focused on the
negative happenstances.
And we uh don't allow ourselves
to make it okay.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And because we're
because of the fear that it's
gonna happen again.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
And that's part of what I uh
take people through when I work
with them on their journaling.
You know, I love journaling.
Yeah.
Is uh that's one of the
techniques, is whenever you are
experiencing a traumatic
experience that just has a
strong hold on you, I will have
that's part of their homework.
Yeah.
Is go ahead and complete the
file.
Right.
And what I mean by that is go
in, revisit the entire traumatic
of it section of your life, not
just the traumatic portion of
it, but the entire, and we'll go
with the relationship, for
example.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
SPEAKER_00: I did this on my
journey, and it was so very
helpful in relationships.
SPEAKER_04: I know you got me.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, uh obviously
uh because I went on a journey
and relationships, and I don't
mean like friends, I mean like
mate uh relationship or uh
finding my intimate and I don't
empty that's not really even the
word either, because it wasn't I
wasn't looking for sexual
relationship necessarily, but my
um what do you call it?
My partnership, my love life.
Yeah, my love life
relationships.
And I noticed that I was the
common denominator when I
explored this part and almost
every traumatic event you the
person is the almost every is
the common denominator if
they're repeating it.
SPEAKER_04: And this is exactly
the topic of this podcast.
Way to go.
SPEAKER_00: Way to bring it
right back around.
SPEAKER_04: Yes, it's the exact
topic, and because that's what
it is, that's what happens, is
you hang on to the traumatic
event because for some reason,
as humans, we class traumatic
events at different levels.
Like, okay, like like I worked
with this, I worked with this
one guy that his he was so
scared because his wife ran off
on him, she started doing drugs
and blah blah blah blah, it's
other stuff.
And he was so fearful of the
running off and doing drug part,
he was classifying these at a
ten instead of the initial
traumatic event as it at a ten.
And so he clouded his own
judgment and ranked his
traumatic events in this
situation higher in one category
than in the other, in the in the
other.
And that's what I was told him.
I was like, you've got to look
at the whole traumatic event
differently.
You've got to take these
rankings down and make them all
equal.
Wow.
Because every step of it is the
same traumatic event.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
So where I was trying to go with
my piece of it was not just
focusing on the trauma part of
the event.
SPEAKER_03: Right.
SPEAKER_00: And I was using
racial relationships as an
example because what I will have
my clients do, which is a little
bit different than what you and
your clients do, is I make them
look at the whole relationship
and pinpoint things they did
learn, things that were good
that came out of it, so that
they come out of it educated and
balanced, not just lopsided and
traumatized.
Right.
SPEAKER_04: No, I totally agree.
SPEAKER_00: You take the whole
relationship and you break it
into two columns, and obviously
the trauma goes in one column
because that's right there in
your face, and you have no
problem identifying it.
So you write it down and you get
it out.
But then you go back and you
revisit that, and it sometimes
is not it, it's not able to be
accomplished in a session.
They actually have to take it
home, and it has to be homework.
Yes.
Um, because sometimes it takes
them a month or two, even, to
really get past the trauma that
they've labeled as a tin to be
able to get to the point of
seeing, okay, what were some of
the parts that can be logged as
good because I learned something
from them.
That's where I had to take
myself personally in having
relationships myself.
Um, I like most people had some
traumatic events, but I but they
were so huge I couldn't see the
good parts.
Right.
The the traumatic events were so
big, right?
And so it took me several months
of doing scientific exploration.
I went on a relationship
expedition in my own life.
SPEAKER_04: See, I I when I work
with clients, I do it a little
differently.
Um, and you know, and guys, if
you're listening, then there's
you can use either one of these
processes, they're both proven
to work.
But what I what I did, like for
this one example I brought up, I
said if you're gonna level
these, make these level, and
this event was a 10, this event
was a one, you have to do the
same thing on the other side.
SPEAKER_00: Are you talking
about the negative events that
trauma?
SPEAKER_04: The negative steps
because people are so good at
remembering all the negative
steps of what happened to this
event, yeah, that because of how
they're taught.
And so I told him basically, if
you take this event and you
label this a one and this event
is a two, and this each step of
this entire traumatic event, you
have to go through and take the
good stuff and do the same
thing.
Right that'll create balance.
You either have to do a this or
b, you have to lower everything
to the same level and look at
them logically.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Because this guy,
for example, had 20 years of
life prior to this event with
this person.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And you you gotta
look at both of them.
So this one traumatic event, we
as humans have a tendency to
allow it to trump all the good
stuff.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And that is not
balance.
SPEAKER_00: Overshadow the good
stuff.
Overshadow.
Do you know why humans do that?
SPEAKER_04: Um, you tell me,
Doctor.
SPEAKER_00: Ooh, do let me.
So pain and pleasure.
SPEAKER_04: That's a template.
SPEAKER_00: As humans, we log
everything as pain and pleasure.
The trip up point is that
because pleasure feels good, we
don't give it as much credit
because it feels good.
The pain can sometimes feel so
bad or be so heavy of an energy,
and it feels so bad.
We hyper-focus on it because we
do not want to feel that shitty
ever again in our lives.
And so we do everything we can
by by being hyper-focused or
hyper-vigilant to try and
control not having to experience
that pain again, whether it be
emotional, mental, or physical.
And so we are constantly on that
fight or flight, stressed out
state about the topic that
caused the pain.
And red flags sometimes you can
get tangled up in.
Life becomes nothing but red
flags, and you're living life.
You wake up one day and realize
you're living life as an
emergency, red flag, red flag,
looking for red flags, looking
for the shoe to drop, rather
than stopping and reminding
yourself to look at the good, to
remember the good and see life
from that perspective as well,
because it felt good, it didn't
necessarily hang on because the
feel bad feels so much worse.
Yeah.
And that's why we do it.
Yeah, I can totally understand.
So you have to be consciously
aware of making sure it's kind
of like um being grateful and
having gratitude.
You gotta stop in the now and go
back to when it did feel bad and
remember now after the cleanup
crews come through of that it
feels better, and I've survived
that, and now life is beautiful
or looks better or feels better,
and recognizing that with as
much fervor or as much focus or
as much vigilance as you do the
painful trauma, and like you
said, giving them equal status
in the file folder of life,
basically, at least logging the
good part of that as a tin so
that they're balanced.
SPEAKER_04: Correct, which is
one of the core teachings that
we do in this workshop coming
up, but the understanding of
when you have this negative
traumatic event that you have
labeled and then you go through
life with a fear of it is so
crucial because when you focus
on it because it does rank so
high in your repertoire of bad
things, you know, as as we live
in this environment, we have a
tendency subconsciously to
recreate that environment and
energetically.
SPEAKER_00: What I'm sorry.
I I thought you were talking
about a dinosaur when he said
repertoire.
SPEAKER_04: Oh okay, T Rex.
You and your short arms.
Anyway, so when we when we allow
those traumatic events and
everything to not release or not
make them okay, because that's
what you and I were discussing
this morning, is when we have
traumatic events in our life and
we hang on to that energy, it
just repeats itself.
Wow because spirit's saying,
Hey, you need to do something
with this.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
And it it skews your
perspective.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, totally.
SPEAKER_00: And what we mean by
skewing your perfect your
perspective, the perspective is
the viewpoint that you hold at
the time whenever you're looking
at your world around you based
on, you know, patterns,
programs, beliefs, your
experiences.
How are you defining the events
that are taking place in front
of you?
That's your perspective.
SPEAKER_04: 100%.
And when you have the first step
of that traumatic event that
you've labeled comes into your
reality, you start focusing on
it.
Or you'd be like, oh, I'm gonna
avoid it.
And I I see this trait in this
person, yep, I'm done, I'm out.
SPEAKER_00: That's right.
And that could be the very
person that's coming to bring
you the key information on your
next step in your journey, but
because you're so restricted or
closed down to the trauma part
of it, you can't even hear this
the message or see the sign.
SPEAKER_04: That is correct,
100%.
SPEAKER_00: Which was our
podcast that we posted on
Tuesday.
You know, seeing the signs of
the city.
Identifying the signs of your
journey.
Or maybe that's the one I have
to edit.
SPEAKER_04: Let's post it all.
SPEAKER_00: Anyway, we've talked
about signs before.
Yeah, that's one of the reasons
why you have a hard time hearing
or seeing the signs of where to
go because you're so focused in
on red flags.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
SPEAKER_00: And you're in such a
trauma response loop.
SPEAKER_04: And fear.
SPEAKER_00: Or living in a fear
template, that's what that
means.
SPEAKER_04: Yep.
SPEAKER_00: And that's what you
can define that as because what
it does is it causes you to look
at the world through eyes of
fear, right?
And that will restrict you from
living life.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
No, totally.
And you know, like for what I
would say to any of the
listeners, it like either using
your way of journaling or my way
of scoring, yeah, you know, uh
either way, you have to look at
those equally.
SPEAKER_00: Right, yeah, because
otherwise your file folder is
one-sided, your energy is
one-sided.
And and like we talked about,
you got to give the good the
same level of playing ground as
you do the bad.
That's right.
It ties right in nicely to the
relationship uh ones that we've
done as well, where you've said
you can't convict your current
relationship for the wrongdoings
of the previous relationship.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
Because that's exactly what
you're doing.
SPEAKER_00: You're taking that
dramatic You're convicting this
person of something they haven't
even done.
SPEAKER_04: I don't think we put
that on a podcast.
We were talking about that
yesterday morning.
SPEAKER_00: And this is one of
the ways that you can entangle
all of that into other sections
of the life pie, is like in your
relationship.
Right.
If you've had a traumatic
relationship or traumatic events
going on in a relationship, and
you try to start a new one
without being able to educate, I
always say you come out of a
relationship either educated and
balanced, or you come out of it
traumatized and damaged.
And so you get to choose.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
And by Well, if your beliefs are
clear, you get to choose.
Right.
Right.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00: Well, yeah, you you
have to stop and acknowledge
Yeah, I had a shitty
relationship, or yeah, I had a
traumatic event.
But am I gonna choose to just be
the victim?
SPEAKER_03: Right.
SPEAKER_00: Or am I gonna choose
to be educated in that?
And one of the ways is either go
your route where it is you you
remember the good, or you find
the good in that interaction, in
that relationship.
What it even if the person
wasn't good, right?
What did I learn from it?
And log those as good.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
SPEAKER_00: Find the good, find
the things that you learned that
were positive, find the positive
in it so you can balance that
out.
SPEAKER_04: You know, what I
liked about it was is one of the
exercises that I had given out
was if you're gonna rate these
as worse, less worse, more
worse, whatever, give them a
number.
And then go through and do the
do that for the good side.
Right.
And then I want you to take the
total of each one of these
numbers and the total of the
traumatic numbers, and then the
total of the good numbers, and
the good numbers always outweigh
the bad.
Because we as humans hang on to
that.
And so when you when we get to
that point that you can be smart
enough to identify and create
the the system that you do,
whichever one it is that you
use, you'll you'll find out that
you're creating this event,
which it could be a very bad
event.
SPEAKER_00: No doubt.
SPEAKER_04: But if if you
weren't supposed to have gone
through it, then you would have
removed yourself from it in the
first place.
Yeah.
And I know some people have a
hard time hearing that.
Well, and that's because you do,
if you go through a traumatic
event with a relationship and an
accident or whatever, whatever
that is, if you weren't supposed
to be going through it, you
wouldn't be going through it.
SPEAKER_00: That's right.
SPEAKER_04: That's just part of
learning.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
But what gets tangled up or what
gets missed, like we're talking
about, is if you stay wrapped up
in the fear and the trauma of it
and not really stopping to go
back to school, put yourself
back through school and get
educated from a balanced state
of being, which is to identify
either the good moments in it or
what you learned on a positive
note from it and balance that
situation out.
SPEAKER_04: Yes, totally 100%
correct.
SPEAKER_00: Because the
situation, yeah, it created
trauma experience because it
hurt physically or mentally or
emotionally, but there was a
reason, like you said, there was
a reason why you went through
it.
And so getting aligned with that
and finding what the other
positive reasons were as to why
you went through it is gonna
give you that balance uh
ability.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, balance
ability.
You know, because you've said
this a hundred times is life is
not happening to you, it's
happening for you.
Yes, and when you can look at it
from that perspective and be
able to rank your traumatic
events differently, you'll quit
copying and paste it in other
parts of your life because
people do that as well.
Yeah, you know, like uh, I'll
give you one that was not very
long ago.
My first husband did this and
this and this, and then he hit
and it then ended up like this.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: And with friends,
with people she's not even gonna
date, she sees the first little
part, that first step of that
traumatic event that she's
labeling as a trend of in
somebody else.
And she's bringing it into all
of her relationships, right
clicking on it, she's copying
it, and she's pasting it right
onto this person.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And then the and
then fear, fear, fear.
Now you've brought it right into
your reality because you're not
handling it.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
And you've got bleed through
onto the other relationships in
your bubble.
SPEAKER_04: And so you've and
and living in a fear template is
what that is.
That is the prime example of
living in a fear template on
that subject.
SPEAKER_00: I agree.
And what it will do
inadvertently is it will, if you
don't deal with it, it'll start
entangling itself into
everything into all sections of
the live pie, the health, the
well-being, the money, the
everything.
It'll start fears everywhere.
It'll grow that little vine of
fear and and weave it into all
those different sections.
SPEAKER_04: That is 100%
correct.
SPEAKER_00: And that's what you
and I do for people is we help
identify for them where that has
gotten entangled and woven into
all the different areas, which
then creates a reality they view
as this is tough or awful, or
I'm ready for change.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
And here's a good here's a good
example of that.
Is when you are logging a
traumatic event in a
relationship, you have now
subconsciously trained your
mind.
The word relationship is going
to have traumatic events no
matter what that relationship
is.
Relationship with you and your
business, you and your food, you
and your friends, you and your
car.
And so that word just travels
over here.
Now you're bringing negative
energy into it, which is why the
power of thought is so strong.
SPEAKER_00: And that can be
happening on a subconscious
level, and you're not even
realize it.
SPEAKER_04: That's 100%.
SPEAKER_00: Because in the human
English language, as we all
know, some words have multiple
meanings.
SPEAKER_04: Oh, yeah.
Well, in in every language.
SPEAKER_00: So I only know the
English language, I can only
speak to that.
SPEAKER_04: Well, I can give a
prime example.
You know, there's Greek and
Hebrew translations I did when I
was studying the Bibles.
Yeah.
You know, there are certain
Hebrew words, like, for example,
like the word, we do it all the
time.
It's on how you say it.
Like I've used this one a lot,
dude.
You say, hey, dude, or dude.
It's the same word, but it's the
presentation that changes it.
Every language that I have ever
studied or learned has that
exact thing.
It's about the presentation.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's another
good asset uh aspect of it.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah.
SPEAKER_00: Uh, but going back
to the word relationship, you
have relationships, like you
said, not only intimate ones
with your partner, but you have
friends, money, you have money,
you've got food, work, work.
I mean, that word can mean a lot
of different things.
And if you've automatically got
a belief that there's uh
relationships can't be trusted,
right, but you've not stopped
and given it precision of words,
as I always say, and you just
clump it all together because of
a traumatic, intimate
relationship that happened,
right, and you're going through
a fear template of life looking
for red flags, it will
inadvertently bleed over and
copy and paste, like you said,
into other relationships in your
life.
SPEAKER_04: You know, like uh
this is the one that I had with
one of the previous guys at
where we used to work.
You know, his wife passed away.
And he was so caught up in the
fact that his wife passed away,
he created a fear and would
literally copy and paste it into
everything that he was trying to
do in his life because he viewed
his marriage of ending abruptly,
and it created a failure mindset
based on the fear of recreating
and so and he carried that over
into oh, I'm not getting the
surgery because it's what
happens if it fails?
Or I'm not gonna do this with my
his grandson was approaching to
him approaching him about uh
helping him invest into a
business.
I'm not gonna do it because it
well, what if it fails?
SPEAKER_00: Right.
So he morphed that all took that
a whole thing.
SPEAKER_04: Yes, and humans do
it.
We all do it.
It's just we're there's some of
us are better at catching it
when we do it.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and that's
what this whole work is about.
Is and that's why I always will
nine times out of ten, when you
ask me, okay, what are the steps
when we're talking about a
certain subject?
Is the most important, I think,
and number one step in most of
this work.
Is becoming aware of it of what
is my perspective?
How am I viewing this?
Because the one once you bring
it into your conscious
awareness, then we have
something to work with.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, totally.
SPEAKER_00: If it's still
sitting back in your
subconscious and you're not
aware of it and you don't even
know what's happening and you're
just on autopilot, then you'll
continue to stay on autopilot
and just muddle through life.
SPEAKER_04: Correct.
SPEAKER_00: So you could change
our name tags to awareness
counselors.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, that's
actually awareness coaches.
SPEAKER_00: Because that's what
we do whenever clients book book
their sessions with us.
Yep.
We listen to them talk and we
have conversation with them,
kind of like we're doing now.
Just uh gentle conversations.
And when we hear patterns or we
hear programming or our beliefs,
uh that's what we do.
We stop right then and we bring
it to their awareness.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
So, like going back to that
example, this perfect thing that
I just talked about, his
grandson had approached him
about helping him start a
business.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And he was like,
Yeah, I'm not gonna do it
because it's gonna fail.
And I'm like, Have you invested
in a business before and failed?
And he's like, No.
I'm like, then why would you
have that energy?
SPEAKER_02: Right.
SPEAKER_04: And so that's where
him and I worked through it.
He was like, Oh, I see what I'm
doing.
And like I told him, if you ever
have something pop up like that,
a doubt, a fear, uh hesitation,
a lack of patience, any any of
that kind of stuff that pops up,
stop and say to yourself, Have I
done this before?
SPEAKER_00: Right.
Is this a viable fear?
Is this a viable thing to be
cautious about or to be logging
this this way?
SPEAKER_04: Right.
SPEAKER_00: You're exactly
right.
SPEAKER_04: Because the number
one thing that I tell everybody
in abundance, when we when I
talk to anybody about abundance,
and I get it gets brought up a
lot.
SPEAKER_00: You mean money
abundance?
SPEAKER_04: Money abundance and
financial.
They carry this fear that they
have been taught that if I do
this, then I'm gonna fail.
Or if I don't do it this way
that I'm taught, I'm gonna fail.
And one of my strong points is
financial in my energetic field.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I agree.
SPEAKER_04: I'm very good at
creating abundance.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And when the number
one thing that held me back for
so many years was the fact that
I was trying to follow this
societal top beliefs.
It does not work.
It does not work, it does not
work.
And and I don't know if y'all
heard me or not, but it does not
work.
You know, uh like hey, I want to
ask you a question.
SPEAKER_00: Does it work?
SPEAKER_04: No, it does not
work.
I promise you.
I I remember when I had no money
in the bank and had bills to
pay.
I remember those days quite
vividly.
SPEAKER_03: Right.
SPEAKER_04: And so when
something comes up, be it, you
know, like for example, this
gentleman that came up, and I'm
like, well, have you?
I mean, how much money have you
lost in business before?
Oh, I don't.
My financial advisor always
tells me, well, there's your
sign.
How much have you has your
wealth really grown?
If you want to grow wealth, quit
holding yourself back, quit
doing it in life, period.
If you want to grow abundantly
in money, in finance, in
relationships, quit copying and
pasting.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, yeah.
Quit standing behind yourself,
holding on to your shirt.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, that's what
you know.
That's that's a that would be a
good idea.
That's a t-shirt.
That is a t-shirt.
SPEAKER_00: That's a t-shirt.
SPEAKER_04: That's a t-shirt for
the store there with a I can see
that that's a absolutely because
you know it we do it in
relationships, we do it in
everything as humans.
Yeah.
We we classify these events as
negative or the societal top
beliefs, we give them more
weight when we have never
experienced them.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and the
unfortunate thing is that a lot
of times, I would say more than
50% of the time, the person
doesn't even realize they're
doing it.
No, they don't.
It's an unconscious practice.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
SPEAKER_00: And so bringing it
to the awareness, because I'm
telling you, the minute you
bring it to your awareness and
you start catching yourself
doing it, yeah, that is
absolutely a big component of
the healing process of any
trauma is bringing it to the
awareness because now you
understand and you see, oh, you
know what?
And we have we'll get people
that say, Oh my gosh, ever since
you brought that to my
awareness, I see it.
I see it in this, I see it in
this, I see it in this.
Yep.
That happens every time almost.
It does.
It I would say you're right.
100% of the time they begin to
see it more and more and more
clearly.
SPEAKER_03: Right.
SPEAKER_00: And so awareness is
a huge part of the work that we
do and a huge part of homework
that we send home with people.
Catch yourself doing it, bring
it to your awareness.
Right.
That's definitely always for me
gonna be step number one.
SPEAKER_04: And so what I did
with him, and this would be a
good, a good thing for them.
I think step number one is
versatile the awareness, like
you said.
You know, step number two is
either A, we're journaling, like
you said, or B, creating that
level of awareness by labeling
everything that you can go back
and think of.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Give it a number.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: How important is
this to me?
How important is it?
Not how not important is it?
Give it a number and then total
them up, and you're gonna find
out that traumatic events don't
weigh anywhere near the good
events.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
And I think the next thing would
be when you're having that
experience, you brought up a
very, very cool technique.
Ask stop and ask yourself the
question.
Yeah, have I done this before?
Yeah, have I like with the
money?
Yeah, have I ever lost money
investing in something before?
Or is it just a total monkey
mind lie that I'm telling
myself?
SPEAKER_04: Have you identified
what you've lost?
No.
Do you believe that things
happen for a reason?
They always say yes.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: They believe
everybody believes that things
things happen for a living.
I have never met anybody that
don't believe that.
They have all happen for a
reason.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
SPEAKER_04: But then so why are
you holding yourself back?
SPEAKER_00: Why have you created
this whole storyline that you're
afraid of failure or you're
afraid it's gonna go this
direction when you've not even
experienced that?
SPEAKER_04: And I'm not saying
go out there and and th just
willy-nilly live life.
That's not what we're saying.
SPEAKER_00: Fuck that, I am.
SPEAKER_02: I'm seeing that.
SPEAKER_04: But what I am saying
is this is you know, I have seen
so many people lose out on good
people for relationships.
SPEAKER_01: Or things.
SPEAKER_04: Or things, or they
won't go buy a truck because
they're, you know, our son.
We worked through this scenario
with him.
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: When he wanted a new
pickup.
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Or you know, it was
I'm sorry.
Yeah, it was a new pickup too.
SPEAKER_03: Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_04: We worked with him
twice on it about this and
buying a new truck and buying a
new apartment.
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And we try to teach
him money in, money out.
SPEAKER_03: That's right.
SPEAKER_04: It's all it all
equalizes out.
Yeah.
You know, like you've got Trump
that's worth eight billion
dollars, but you know, nobody
tells you that he spent four
hundred million dollars a a
year.
You know, that's his cost.
People, that's how people live.
You don't change the energy.
Yeah, you you grow in abundance.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: So your levels go
up.
You do it in relationships, you
do it in finance, you do it in
health.
SPEAKER_01: That's right.
SPEAKER_04: You do it in
everything.
And so going through these
steps, if you can marry them
together, do it in sex.
Happens in sex a lot.
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: You know, when and
like I told him, so if you
believe things happen for a
reason, then this is put in your
lap for some reason.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Now what you do with
that is up to you.
SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
SPEAKER_04: But you have to get
the traumatic events out of the
way and the fears and what
you've been taught unless you've
experienced it, and some if
you're getting a negative
thought about something unless
you've lived it and experienced
it, then you have no ground to
in your life to hang on to it.
SPEAKER_00: Well, and the other
side of that is is that if you
are so closed off to
experiencing any aspect of it or
that situation that uh gets
close to that wound, that
traumatic wound, if you're so
closed off, you won't even allow
the healing.
SPEAKER_04: No, you won't.
And you won't allow the
opportunity of anything.
SPEAKER_00: I uh have uh I had a
client that she had a traumatic
relationship, as most people do,
and I mean still to this day,
she is like it's a battle.
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
SPEAKER_00: She absolutely is
still staunch on certain things
around relationships, and it's
bleeding over into uh the other
parts of her life.
Right.
And she she just is like, nope,
I'm not doing that.
I'm I can't, I'm not doing it,
not not not happening.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
SPEAKER_00: Of course, you know,
the salty ass tarot in me is
like, well, I don't know why
you're wasting your money then.
I mean, give me my$65, come sit
on my comfortable couch and
we're gonna repeat history every
week.
We'll sit here and we'll repeat
history every week.
You're you're not gonna allow
yourself to heal this traumatic
event, so it's your decision.
If you want to keep wallowing in
the pig sty of bullshit, then be
my guest.
You know, even down to just what
you would consider minor things.
Yeah.
Um, like the other day we were
talking about going on a cruise,
and we were oh yeah,
conversating with an individual,
and they had had a negative
experience on being on a boat
that they were just very staunch
and nope, I'm not going on a
cruise.
It made me sick ever again.
Instead of coming to that place
of wanting to level up and do
some work around it and come
full circle and relax about it a
little bit and learn that you
can let go of that traumatic
experience because look at look
at the beautiful stuff you're
missing out on.
SPEAKER_03: Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_00: The cruise ships
have advanced in their
technology.
Yeah, I even brought that up.
You're not even willing to go
and try the little cruise just
to test it or do any homework
around it.
You're just staunch in nope, I
had a bad experience.
This is gonna happen to me over
and over and over and over.
What a closed-off way to live
life.
What a closed-off way to look at
things.
SPEAKER_04: It's fear.
SPEAKER_00: It's of course it's
fear, but you're what I what I'm
getting at is you're you're
missing out on so many beautiful
experiences that you can be
having.
And that's in just such tiny
little part of the life pie is
using that example of going on a
cruise because you had this
experience, and now you've
clumped it all together of every
experience I go on, which has to
do with going in a boat in the
ocean, I'm gonna have the same
outcome, and so I'm never doing
it ever, ever again.
And it just is it's just a
closed-off way to experience
life in general.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
And you know, in that scenario,
I was I don't think people
realize they copy and paste
their world.
And when you're how many other
things are you creating that
fear of exploring new things in?
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, how many other
things are you copying pasting
in?
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, you and
because it's just out of habit.
Oh, yeah, they will.
SPEAKER_00: And it's an
unconscious habit.
SPEAKER_04: I went on this
adventure and I failed and it
created a fear, and so now I'm
gonna and now I'm not gonna do
this adventure because what if?
SPEAKER_00: And then they look
at their reality and it's not
quite what they want it to be,
and they don't understand why.
SPEAKER_04: That's right.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00: Well, gosh, you
gotta you you gotta start
looking at stuff, right?
And you've gotta start looking
at how it can enter tangle in
other sections of your life and
bleed over into other sections
of your life if you leave it
unaddressed or unattended.
Right.
It can physically start having
making you know symptoms.
Oh, totally.
It can mentally wear you down,
it can take the sweetness out of
life, it can change your
perspective of being able to
have appreciation and
acknowledge the beauty of the
world around you.
It can just totally skew all of
those different areas and it
will present a whole different
reality.
That's why the power of thought
school is so so important.
SPEAKER_04: Totally.
SPEAKER_00: Um, because we teach
you step by step on what we
mean, and we dive into the
depths of all of this and show
you.
It is a process, it is a way we
can get entangled and how it can
skew other aspects of the life
pie just by having this one
little baby thought and being so
restricted and so staunch on
nope, I'm not moving my cheese
on this one, not happening.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, and how
something else can be
entertained.
Do you think in this example of
the boat thing, you know, the
very next sentence was is I
never eat.
And you know, uh a lot of people
don't realize that that's
marrying from one thing to the
other.
Right because you're
entertaining nauseous on the
ship.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And now you don't
eat properly.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: Because it's a
belief system of I don't want to
have anything in there just in
case and I'm gonna throw up.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
SPEAKER_04: And so that's the
you know, that's it's all
entangled.
It's all intertangled.
People don't realize how that
intertangles into their life
when they do that.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and it can.
It can all get tangled up and
twisted up and connect itself to
other things and intertangle all
kinds of stuff if you're not
careful and paying attention.
SPEAKER_04: You know, I'm and
I'm gonna push this out there,
which I don't normally do.
Dun dun dun.
I I would challenge any listener
that if you have anything that
comes up that says, Well, what
if?
Or again it creates that little
bit of hesitation in anything in
your life.
Look at it.
In anything, look at it, and
write it down.
I don't I'm not normally a
journaling pusher, but if you'll
write it down and then look at
something completely opposite of
the spectrum.
Say we're talking about
relationships, you're having an
uh you've had a traumatic
experience in a relationship,
and you you wrote that down.
And now I want you to take the
opposite end of the spectrum and
go to your relationship with um
food and see where they that
their similarities.
Write those write the the things
down in your traumatic event,
yeah, and then write it down
with your relationship with
food, and you're gonna see the
similarities.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, so in my
process, when I have people
journal, we do that.
See uh where this might be
affecting the other, I call it
the life pie.
SPEAKER_03: Right.
SPEAKER_00: You know, you've got
relationship with uh money, and
you you've got work and career,
and uh, I mean, just all those
different sections of the life
pie.
First of all, we identify what
the life pie is, right?
But then we have this one thing
that creates such a staunch
viewpoint.
That's part of their homework,
is what you just said exactly.
Go and ask yourself a question.
Where else in my life pie may I
be dragging this into that and
inadvertently entangling it in?
Then the third thing I have them
do.
SPEAKER_04: You just lost it.
SPEAKER_00: I lost the channel.
SPEAKER_04: Uh-huh.
Well, I guess that was all I
need to hear on this podcast,
maybe.
Maybe it's a continuation.
SPEAKER_00: We'll see if it
comes back up.
SPEAKER_04: Well, the the I
think the part of it that
everybody needs to hear is hey,
we're we're let's kind of repeat
the steps.
One is awareness.
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Two is find the
balance, create the the list of
the good and the bad in every
topic, if it's a relationship or
if it's you know, and make it
individualized.
And so if you had a bad
relationship with Bobby Joe,
then write down Bobby Joe
relationship, the negatives and
the positives.
And then if you if you do like
the like the client I had, i if
this traumatic part of this
event was much more than this,
then go ahead and write out a
number beside them and score
them from one to ten, and then
add those numbers up.
SPEAKER_00: And do you think it
would be beneficial to do a
subtitle of am I letting that
relationship or that experience
from Bobby Joe bleed over into
any of my other relationships
that question?
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, totally.
I think we're that is correct.
Um, because I think the next
step of that is first of all,
you have to allow yourself to
accept and balance that
traumatic events out.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
And give ownership where
ownership is due and and take
blame away from where it's not
net uh how would you say that?
SPEAKER_04: Because well, I just
want to say that's not
deserving, and a lot of people
don't like this, but uh I will
say this that it's 50% your
fault too.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
But what I'm saying in more of
the way of like the example you
talked about earlier is in a
relationship situation, for
example, if this person did
something to you, are you
blaming the new person when the
new person didn't even hasn't
even done that thing?
Well, I think that's in step
three like you said with his
investing, yeah, he won't even
allow himself to entertain the
uh the possibility because he's
afraid he's gonna lose out
anyway, it's not gonna work out.
And you had him ask the
question, okay, well, have you
ever invested anything and it
failed?
He's like, No.
SPEAKER_04: Never invested
anything, he never invested at
all.
SPEAKER_00: Right, the illogical
thing in what you're doing.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
And you know, what's really
funny is right before we left
over there, he came to me and I
said, Hey, how's your son's
business, your grandson's
business doing?
And he's like, Oh, it's
phenomenal.
He already he paid me back in
three months and and he's doing
a great job.
And he's I'm like, See?
Right.
And he was like, Yeah, I know, I
know.
He said, and so now I'm looking
at other things that I've been
taught this.
He was he's because he had all
his money in his retirement
fund, whatever was controlled by
somebody, and now he started
playing in the stock market
because he was taught all his
life that it was dangerous to
play in.
SPEAKER_01: Oh, right.
SPEAKER_04: And so now he's
opened his windows and and
playing in the stock market.
SPEAKER_00: Kind of venture now.
SPEAKER_04: And and then he
started talking to a woman at
the place where he volunteer.
Right.
And so it's carrying over, it's
kind of funny, you know.
SPEAKER_00: Allowing yourself to
live.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, and uh and
crazy, he was in his mid-90s.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And he was talking
to some little some woman that
volunteers there too.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
But uh it's you know, are you
copying pasting life or are you
allowing yourself to live?
SPEAKER_04: Right, because
that's uh that's what we do as
humans, and until you can
identify that and allow the
balance because that's the last
step of this process.
Your awareness, your your
journaling, your scoring, you're
looking at the processes by
which you're marrying it into
the other slice of pie of life.
Yeah, whatever that is.
And now the last thing is you
have to allow it to balance, you
have to make it okay.
SPEAKER_03: Right.
SPEAKER_04: You know what?
It may happen again in your
life.
News for you, no matter what
belief you have, what fear you
have, whatever it is, it may
happen again.
And it's time to accept that.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, and be okay
with it.
SPEAKER_04: And be okay with it
if it does.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: Because when you
what you'll find out is when you
make it okay, it normally
doesn't.
But it could.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: It could.
And so that accepting that
releases that energy of like,
okay, if this happens, it's
gonna happen.
It is what it is.
You know, you hear me say that
all the time.
It is what it is.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because if
we're supposed to experience it,
we will.
We will.
SPEAKER_04: And if there's
something in it that you missed
that you were supposed to learn,
your higher self's gonna bring
it into your reality again.
And so what's the use of having
fear?
Because fear is a useless
emotion.
It's not even a natural emotion,
it's taught.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: You know, you can
have hesitation, you know, and I
had had somebody try to argue
with me about that fact one time
that fear is not natural.
Because he said, What about the
cavemen?
Why didn't they just jump off
the cliffs?
Or why didn't you know, why did
they if they didn't have a fear?
And I'm like, well, first of
all, you're talking way over
your head.
You're you know, dimensionally
there were cavemen were just a
dimension.
But the second part about it is
no, they didn't have fear.
You know what it was?
It was logic.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
Strategy and logic.
SPEAKER_04: Right.
They didn't attach an emotion to
it.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
SPEAKER_04: They just said, Oh,
okay.
So if I don't jump off this
cliff, I'm logically minded
enough to say that's gonna hurt.
SPEAKER_00: Not gonna end well.
SPEAKER_04: No, not gonna end
well.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: But they didn't not
do it because they were scared
to do it.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
SPEAKER_04: Cavemen weren't
scared of anything.
I mean, heck, they fought
dinosaurs for God's sakes.
You know, so maybe, you know.
You know, but if you go off the
historical books, but but making
it okay.
SPEAKER_00: Like they But they
well, I mean, what about that
show where there's these
ranchers that are finding
dinosaur bones on their property
now?
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, in the States
I went in a different direction.
That was in Idaho.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I know.
SPEAKER_04: Wow, huh?
SPEAKER_00: We we came across
that little series, and I was
like, oh my god, who would have
thought it?
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, I know, right?
And then they found a couple
stacked on top of each other.
But anyway, so the to finish out
the podcast since we're getting
there, the you know, the last
thing keeper.
Well, I have to.
The part of it that nobody does
is they don't allow it to be
okay in their life.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: You want success,
remove the crap in any topic.
SPEAKER_00: Absolutely.
SPEAKER_04: You have to make it
okay.
Yeah, listen.
I'm gonna I'm gonna alright, I'm
gonna give this gal a chance.
I'm gonna I'm gonna date this
gal.
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: That's what I did
with you.
I'm gonna give this gal a
chance.
You're just playing.
SPEAKER_00: But when you let me
take this old crazy gal, this
gypsy, homeless rag muffin of a
gal.
Um let me give her a chance.
Let me see if I can drag her
around for a while and see what
happens.
SPEAKER_04: When we first
started dating, I remember that
jar was on my bar.
I always had a jar that had
thousands of dollars of cash in
it.
Thousands.
And she walked in one day, she's
like, I got one question.
Are you like a drug dealer or
what?
SPEAKER_00: Right.
SPEAKER_04: And I'm like, What
why do you ask that question?
And she's like, Because I've
never known anybody that just
puts thousands or you know,
thousands and thousands of
dollars of cash in a jar,
sitting openly in a glass jar
that you can see into.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
I'm like, exactly.
SPEAKER_04: It's just there in
case I need it.
So it was so funny.
Yeah, but because I had balanced
out that part of my life.
SPEAKER_01: Right.
SPEAKER_04: And I was working on
the relationship thing, and then
you came in and and it balanced
quite well.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: But I I really did,
you know, say that to myself.
I wasn't, you know, and you
laugh.
I did say, Yeah, I'm gonna give
this cow the chance.
That's when I got out of the
truck, came over, and kissed you
in the car.
SPEAKER_00: Right.
Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: That's exactly what
I did.
SPEAKER_00: Because after you
and I said our goodbye
greetings, uh, and you didn't
kiss me.
The salutations.
Yeah, salutations.
I was like, oh, this guy's
weird.
I don't, I don't know if this is
gonna go anywhere.
First of all, he took me.
So my criteria, we'd been
talking on the phone for a
minute, and we finally, I say a
minute, you know, maybe two or
three days for what a couple of
weeks.
SPEAKER_04: No, it was like two
days.
We talked once for like 15
minutes because you had to go
away.
SPEAKER_00: A couple of days or
whatever.
And you'd said, well, you wanna
meet up somewhere.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, you want to go
have dinner or something.
SPEAKER_00: I said, sure.
But here's the criteria.
Listen, uh, because I had long
hair and I only wash it like
once a week.
I do not want to go anywhere in
some dumb dive bar that's smoky
where I'll have to wash my
freaking hair.
Because at the time, listen, you
guys, I was living out of my
car, and it wasn't easy to go
and wash my hair every damn day
like society says you have to.
SPEAKER_03: Right.
SPEAKER_00: Like I was having to
get, you know, go to a friend's
house and wash my hair, or like
I just needed life to be simple,
simple life.
SPEAKER_04: And you it was a
choice, by the way.
SPEAKER_00: It was.
I went homeless to have uh a
freedom experience and to untie,
kind of go semi-off grid from
everything after the kids went
off to college and everything.
So it definitely was a choice.
Anyway, long story short, I gave
him all these criteria and these
rules.
I don't want to go into some
junky ass dive bar where it's
all filled with smoke, and I
leave with my long hair.
I helped her clear some things,
smoky and shit.
I don't want to do all that
crap.
SPEAKER_04: And where do I take
you?
SPEAKER_00: And where the fleep
does he take me?
SPEAKER_04: To a biker bar.
SPEAKER_00: I pull up to this
damn place, and I literally, you
guys, almost didn't even get out
of the damn car.
Because I was at a point in my
life where I was okay if I had a
relationship, but I was okay if
I didn't.
SPEAKER_04: That's balance.
That's exactly what we're
preaching today.
SPEAKER_00: That's right.
That's right.
SPEAKER_04: I was the same exact
way.
SPEAKER_00: Before in my life, I
had never gotten to a place
where I was okay not being in a
relationship.
SPEAKER_03: Right.
SPEAKER_00: And I had finally
done the work, got off my ass,
did the homework, found the
common denominators, looked at
things, do the very steps that I
am sharing here on the podcast
today.
And I know this is going long,
but I think it's pertinent.
And I was fine not having you in
my life or having you in my
life.
Yep.
So therefore, I confidently
said, Yep, we can meet up, but
here's my boundaries.
And him being the challenger
that he is, which we still do
this to the to this day.
We play around and banter with
each other.
He says, Okay, meet me.
SPEAKER_04: I'll send you a
ping.
SPEAKER_00: Meet me here.
Let me give you the ping.
I pull up in this parking lot,
and it is a dive backward.
SPEAKER_03: I am a biker, man.
SPEAKER_00: It is a damn dive.
You get out thinking you're
gonna get shanked for God's
sakes.
I'm like single biker.
Sketchy ass back alley bar.
I don't even know if I'm I I I'm
almost afraid to even get out of
the damn car much less walk in
this place by myself and meet
this complete stranger.
SPEAKER_04: I was sitting at the
bar already because everybody
knew me there.
SPEAKER_00: But what it did was
I had to clear societal
programming and basically stop
judging the book by its cover
and know that I sat in the car
for a minute and I really had to
check in with my council members
and my higher self and my
guidance.
Um, because societally you're
taught, oh, female, don't go
into this eerie looking, junky
ass place.
So I did.
I you're right.
You set me in emotion to clear
some shit.
SPEAKER_04: Yep, I gave you a
spoonful of here you go.
unknown: Right.
SPEAKER_00: So I finally was
like, okay, you know what?
We're doing this.
I trust my guidance.
I know that if I were in danger,
I know my counsel will guide me
away from that.
I wouldn't be sitting here if I
were supposed to, you know, not,
or if if I was gonna die today,
bullshit.
And if I'm supposed to die today
and this is where I'm supposed
to do it, then it was divinely
guided, and I trust that.
And and I and I do to this day,
trust my guidance
wholeheartedly.
So I got out of the damn car and
I went in.
SPEAKER_04: First thing she said
to me when she sat down is I
told you not to bring me to a
smoky dive bar.
I said, Okay.
There's the door, basically,
bitch.
I was like, This is me.
You like me or you don't?
SPEAKER_00: Like at this salty
ass.
I see.
Okay, let's play.
SPEAKER_04: And we did.
SPEAKER_00: Let's play, let's
dance.
SPEAKER_04: We did not spend a
night apart since.
SPEAKER_00: We have not.
SPEAKER_04: It's been uh fun.
SPEAKER_00: We have not.
SPEAKER_04: It's been a good
ride.
I cannot uh complain at all.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it has.
SPEAKER_04: But what it does is
it is that right there is a
prime example of how your guides
work.
unknown: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Just because you
have a fear.
SPEAKER_02: Right.
SPEAKER_04: And if you're aware
enough to stop and say, you know
what?
I trust my instinct.
I trust trust that spirit
allowed me to first of all bring
this into my reality.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And second of all,
is I trust my higher self and my
guidance to get myself out of
the situation that I put myself
into.
SPEAKER_00: Or be okay in the
situation.
SPEAKER_04: Or be okay within
it.
Because I generally speak, you
make the stories bigger than
they really are.
SPEAKER_00: Here I am, afraid to
get out because I'm afraid I'm
gonna be physically injured or
end of life.
Yep.
And I just finally I was like,
you know what?
I trust my guidance.
So if this is where I've come to
die, then so be it.
So it's okay to stay, it's okay
to go.
SPEAKER_04: It is.
And that's balance, and that's
where I think we end this at is
you have to allow balance in
everything that you have.
SPEAKER_01: That's right.
SPEAKER_04: And if you go
through the steps that we just
give you and identify Those
fears, you'll find out what's
holding you back.
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Because that is
what's holding you back in life.
100%.
Absolutely.
It's the only thing that holds
you back because your higher
self and just your mission here
in this life is to have
experiences.
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: And when you are
fearful, fearful of engaging in
any new experience, if it's
brought into your reality, it is
there for a reason.
SPEAKER_02: That's right.
SPEAKER_04: And when you don't
look at it and or don't give it
the opportunity out of out of
societal thought or beliefs or
even experience.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: If you don't give it
the opportunity, then you cannot
rewrite the history.
SPEAKER_00: That's right.
SPEAKER_04: And that does not
create balance.
SPEAKER_00: Or have an
experience.
Yep.
Or even have a new experience so
that you can balance out the
energy of the previous
experience.
SPEAKER_04: I like one thing.
There the Dr.
Phil, he always says this, and I
like the way he says it.
Um and he always says the best
pred predictor of future
behavior is past behavior.
Because he they just don't say
this part.
This is because you carry
beliefs.
SPEAKER_02: That's right.
SPEAKER_04: And you're and it's
you you know, he uses it a way
to stereotype people.
Yeah.
But the saying itself needs one
more phrase.
SPEAKER_00: It does.
SPEAKER_04: Because you bring
beliefs with you.
SPEAKER_00: You copy and paste
your beliefs right into the next
moment.
SPEAKER_04: Yep.
And so when you can look at it
in that way and don't turn your
head on opportunities in life,
be it food, relationships,
money, friendships, business,
whatever it is, don't you don't
side-eye it.
SPEAKER_00: So you know what we
are.
What we're the control
alt-delete of your copy and
paste programming.
SPEAKER_04: There you go.
SPEAKER_00: Hey, I like the way
you like that computer linked
out.
SPEAKER_04: That's very good.
unknown: Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Anyway, hey, um,
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SPEAKER_00: That's right.
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Very quickly coming.
SPEAKER_04: Yes, it is coming
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_00: Yeah, it's gonna be
so much fun.
It already is so much fun.
We're getting to kind of see
snippets of it with the dual
developers.
SPEAKER_04: What a did not know
it was this entailed to develop.
SPEAKER_00: I didn't either.
SPEAKER_04: And what a fear it
created in me in the beginning.
Wow.
Really?
Yeah.
I was, I mean, all the stuff I
had to create.
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
And had to learn.
SPEAKER_04: I was like, I'm old.
I can't learn new stuff.
Teach an old dog new tricks.
You're old.
That's what came in my head.
SPEAKER_00: I better get on uh
what was that?
Okay, cupid.
I better get on a book.
SPEAKER_04: You better give me a
replacement.
SPEAKER_00: Find my replacement
parts.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, you may be
able to 3D print them now.
Who knows?
SPEAKER_00: Oh, good thinking.
SPEAKER_04: Or you know, AI
exists.
You can have an AI boyfriend on
your phone.
SPEAKER_00: Ah, AI 3D printing.
You might be on to something
there.
SPEAKER_04: That's my
technology.
Technology.
Yeah, that mind.
Anyway, hey, uh, thank you all
for listening, and I hope you
all really truly listen to this
podcast because it will change
your life.
SPEAKER_00: It is.
SPEAKER_04: Have an awesome day.
SPEAKER_00: Love ya, and then
you can't.