"How Big is Yours?" Series (Relationships part 1)

Speaker 2: Thank you. Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome back to this podcast. We're here with Dr Jenny and James. Speaker 2: Hello. Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us again today, and we are back today to continue our discussion on how big is yours? Speaker 2: It's so big. Speaker 1: Oh, is this like a fisherman's tale, first section of how big is yours? We covered self-worth, yep, and we both agree that that probably was the best podcast that we've posted so far. I think it was one of the best ones because it covers so much and it's the first step in the spiritual world that we live in yeah, I, I definitely think it's the the key and everything else kind of revolves around that so in that we covered how big is your container or your cup. Container your containment device, your containment device for each section. Speaker 2: When I say containment device. It reminds me of the apparatus they used on Ghostbusters to get the little ghost sucked in To catch Slammer, yeah, and that was a good movie back then. Speaker 1: That was state-of-the-art back then. To get the little ghost sucked in To catch Slimer, yeah, that was a good movie back then. That was state-of-the-art back then. It was top-notch man, it was the top of the line. The containment device that we talked about for self-worth applies in many aspects of our daily life. I think the second step of that , of the containment devices we should cover, goes on relationships. Speaker 2: That's a good one too . Speaker 1: Because there's many aspects of relationships you have the relationship with yourself. Yeah, there's relationship with other people friends, money with you, name it. There's relationship with anything with your family, your pets, your personal belongings. You can get attachments to. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: All those kind of things. Speaker 2: Yeah, it doesn't have to be something living, breathing. It can be an intimate object. Speaker 1: Doing the other podcast, my mind was going to the relationship one. The self-worth is a relationship with yourself as well, and so that's why your self-worth is so important. Moving into the relationship with yourself, yeah. So that's where my mind went with it. And when we were talking about your containment device for relationships, that's a whole lot of syllables. Speaker 2: Well, pick a different word. There's a million. Speaker 1: My cup runneth over syllables. Well, pick a different word. There's a million, my cup runneth over. Let's talk about some, maybe some of those negative societal top beliefs or phrases that have to do with relationships. Do you have any in mind? How about this one? Once a cheater, always a cheater? Or I'm the best guy, I'm the best employee at work. Why don't they recognize it? I'm the best guy, I'm the best employee at work. Why don't they recognize it? I've heard that one a lot. Speaker 2: Or how about I'm not good enough to have that person? How? Speaker 1: about. Money makes people evil. Money is the root of all evil. The lottery curse. Speaker 2: Money is the root of all evil. Speaker 1: All these societal phrases and people don't realize how much it affects them when they listen to it. Speaker 2: Well, yeah, and they don't even consciously realize that they're making the statement to themselves in just normal day-to-day conversation. Speaker 1: Yes. Speaker 2: And every time you're talking, your subconscious is listening. Speaker 1: And you know, and it's moved into the spiritual world, because I've heard people say they just don't resonate with me. Let's talk about that. It's not that they're not resonating with you, it's just you don't align with their energy. Speaker 2: Right. Speaker 1: And so you could be lower than them, they could be a higher vibration than you or a lower vibration than you, and so if they just don't resonate with me, they try to make it sound like it's somebody else's fault. Yeah, and so it's deflating. That's a trick. It's a trick. Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of people use that as a trick, even in the spiritual world. That doesn't resonate with me. Speaker 1: Okay, well, why yeah? Why doesn't it? Speaker 2: Because, as I said in the other podcast. Why doesn't it? Because, as I said in the other podcast, life has no meaning until you give it meaning. That's correct, and so if they're not resonating with you, why are they not? Are they showing you some aspect of yourself you don't want to see? Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, that's a good one there. Reflecting back to you what you are. Yeah, yeah, for sure, I hear about it and sometimes I get caught. What you are. Yeah, yeah For sure I hear about it and sometimes I get caught up in that. Yeah, we do. Yeah, I get that person with me , or you know it's a trap, it's. It's a trap to keep yourself at that vibrational level where you don't believe in yourself or you don't think that that person can guide you into it. Speaker 2: You know there's an old I mean, sometimes for me even it's just, it's even simpler than that. If I've had a really energetically exhausting or humanly exhausting day and someone comes across my path, I will say, ooh, I cannot deal with that person right now. They do not resonate with me because I'm just, I'm blasted, I'm wasted, I don't have anything left. Speaker 1: I had a little bit of a rough, energetic day today. You actually did that to me once today. Speaker 2: I was like oh dude, Dirty dapper, I can't. Speaker 1: I was having a little bit of a rough, energetic day. Normally I'm pretty high frequency and running around a lot. Speaker 2: Yeah, but it happens. Speaker 1: Today was just one of those off days for me, so there was a lot of things that resonate with me today. But the difference is, is I recognize? Speaker 2: it as my own, even down to lunch, even lunch, right , I know right. Speaker 1: It's crazy, when you vibrate at that level, how everything changes. We had liver and onions today Liver and onions today for lunch , and I hate blood filter. Speaker 2: And the secondary option wasn't something that he likes either. Speaker 1: I don't even remember what it was. Speaker 2: It was the chicken wings. Speaker 1: Oh yeah, chicken wings. I don't like chicken wings. No, I think they're greasy and nasty. Speaker 2: He sat back, oh pouty . And he said okay. Well, I just am not even going to eat lunch. I said okay. Speaker 1: My energy was off. Today, I tell you, and that's what happens really it does. Speaker 2: It happens to all of us when you're vibrating at that level. Speaker 1: You attract those people to you that are vibrating at that level that you don't like. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: And you're humanly. You're just beating your head against the wall Because my containment device was full today Full of garbage, negativity garbage, whatever you want to call it, recyclables, whatever that is, I don't care. Speaker 2: Recyclables. Speaker 1: Well, it is kind of recyclable. Speaker 2: It's energy, yeah. Speaker 1: And so it was full of the recyclables that I don't like. The part of it that I recognize today is my energy, I recognize , was off. My cup was full. I had had enough of the containment device overrunning and flooding out to everybody. Because that's what happens when your cup gets full it just spreads. Speaker 2: When it gets full of the wrong stuff, of the negative stuff. Speaker 1: That's right and that's where mine was today. Yeah, and that's okay. Speaker 2: It is okay. Speaker 1: I got home and I emptied my cup and here we are doing a podcast. We played around on our duo caster, you need a flush. Speaker 2: the toilet sound yeah I don't have one. Speaker 1: I have this one. I need to flush the toilet sound you do when it goes to comes to relationship. I'm going to start with the relationship with yourself. You know we talked about the self-worthworth and giving ourselves those permission slips to identify and drop beliefs and move forward with life. The steps of it that I use is I try to imagine myself in a different place, looking towards a positive energy or a positive thought or a positive action, a positive experience that can help me pick my cup up and dump it out and start putting good stuff back in it. Speaker 2: Yeah, right. Well, so for me, I try to remind myself okay, am I treating myself the way I would want my best friend to treat me? That's me, and if I'm not being my own best friend, then why am I not? What is that relationship? I think that's the first step Identifying what the relationship is and what it looks like, and giving actually that, giving yourself almost a whole nother personality of. Okay, if I were my own best friend, how would I want to be treated? What is that relationship? And most times, what people we've worked with find is that they're very critical of themselves. They are quick to put themselves down, they are quick to point out the flaws and the wrongs and just really be very critical of themselves. And so we'll have a conversation with them and say, if that was another human being sitting there doing that to you, how long would you be in that relationship? So I feel like that's the first thing is to kind of look at how are you treating yourself? Are you treating yourself the way you would let your best friend or your spouse or any other human being treat you? Because if you're not, you need to set some boundaries for yourself yeah, and you're talking about every aspect of yourself. Speaker 1: You're talking about eating, exercising, friendship, socialization, work. How are you treating yourself? Are you treating yourself in the proper way? Yeah and that's not taken as a negative vibration in any of those things. Right, not just the best food in the world. But if you don't think it's the best food in the world, it's not going to be the best food in the world. Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I mean, or even if you eat when you're in that wonky space, the food's not going to taste as good. It can or not digest as easy or come out the other side liquid. Thanks for sharing. Speaker 1: Somebody give him the prize and we need the audience clapping laughter Because he's sharing Karen today. Sharing Karen, and you're right when you look at the relationship to yourself that you have with yourself, make it, identify it and then come up with a vision of what you want in your head for it to look like . Speaker 2: Yeah, that's where those affirmations you know a lot of people will put down affirmations and say you can't fake it till you make it. And when I say that, it feels like a lie it probably is, because you're probably not being a very good friend to yourself at first, but again, it's a pattern of habit, and so those affirmations that's how they come into play. That's where they come into play is teaching yourself how to be in a better relationship with yourself, and so making those lists of things that are good attributes about you, making yourself identify them and I think I mentioned this in another podcast. When you're beginning to build a better relationship with yourself, you may only be able to come up with one or maybe two things that you can find that truly you feel like are believable attributes about you that are positive. But if you take the negatives that are popping up and change them into a positive, now what you're doing is you're writing history the way you want it to be, and by practicing that, then you will become what you are teaching your mind, your brain, to be. You will become that eventually because it's a habit. Speaker 1: So like, for example, if you believe that I am terrible at math and you tell people I'm not good at math, Can you do this? Or I need a calculator, I'm not good at math. Change that around into I am good at math. Speaker 2: I'm good at math, that's right. Speaker 1: And tell yourself that I am good at math and believe it. Speaker 2: Yeah, and what helps kind of solidify that in even more is look at yourself in the mirror, in the eye. Don't look at your lip, don't look at your chin, don't look down at your neck. Look at yourself in the eye and really talk to yourself and tell yourself these different affirmations, making the statements of you know, I'm bad at math, or I suck at that, or I'm being sensitive, I'm overly sensitive and change that into a positive statement and start practicing that as an affirmation of I'm going to affirm to myself to have a better relationship with myself and be a better best friend to myself. Right, I deserve it. I owe myself that. Speaker 1: Start with one thing yeah, this is a marathon, it's not a sprint. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: And the better you get at it. You can do two, three, four, five, six a day. Yeah, and you'll get to where turning the negatives into with, like the example I give it will . It will change your life slowly , yeah, and you can be fast if you do it fast. But you know, you'll definitely start seeing things like we were training a guy we actually were training a couple at our regular employment and he always he kept saying to me I don't know if I can get this down, I don't know if I can do sales, and I would just keep telling him if you keep believing that you're going to make it true, yeah. You keep believing that you're going to make it true. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: You will believe it because you say it. Speaker 2: Right, because, again , a belief is just a habit of thought. It's a habit of thought. It's a habit of thought, yes. And once you say it enough, once you have the habit of it enough, then it becomes a belief . You're training your brain, you're programming your computer system to have this belief about this that you've told yourself over and, over and over again. If you stop and think about it, if you go back and look at things. Speaker 1: You're totally right. You said it right A belief is a program or how do you put it? A program of thought. Speaker 2: A belief is just a habitual pattern of thought. A habitual pattern of thought. It's a habit. I like the way you put that it's a thought habit. Speaker 1: I kept telling him you know, you keep saying that and you're going to believe it. And so he started turning it around. And and so he started turning it around and now they've got promoted and they went on and he's doing a great job at sales. He said today that I told him that if I believe it, if I keep saying it, I'm going to believe it. And so he just said I kept saying I can do this, yeah, I can do this, and no matter what it is, just turn it around. And so that will help build that relationship. Speaker 2: At first it's not going to feel right. Speaker 1: Right, it's going to feel odd. Speaker 2: And you're going to say, why do I to be different? At first, my monkey mind says no, you're not, and so then I'm like yes. Speaker 1: I am. Speaker 2: No, you're not. Nuh-uh, yes, I am, and so we're doing this childish back and forth argument the childish banter With the monkey? Speaker 1: Yeah, it is. Speaker 2: And I got to jerk that monkey up and beat the tar out of him. Speaker 1: But the relationship if you start doing those steps within yourself your relationship with yourself becomes better and more positive , you'll feel better healthily. You'll feel more healthy. You'll have more energy. You'll feel better healthily. You'll feel more healthy. You'll have more energy. You'll have a better social life. You'll start attracting those people to you that you want to be. Speaker 2: And when you're doing it, make sure you do it in the current tense. Speaker 1: Correct. Speaker 2: Don't say I want to be better at math because that keeps it in the future Right, I am good at math now. Keeps it in the future Right, I am good at math now. Put it in a now statement. Speaker 1: It's okay to do that, because nobody knows your affirmations. But you Right. Speaker 2: And put them where you see them every day. If you put them on a piece of paper and make yourself get up in the morning as part of your self-care ritual, read that list . Or if you need to put sticky notes on your mirror, listen, when I first began, I had to write them on my mirror because every day I'd go in there and getting ready for work, putting my makeup on, doing my hair. I'm sitting there staring at these things and subconsciously I'm reading them, even though I'm not reading them, with my mouth out loud. I'm blow drying my hair and I'm curling my hair or whatever. I'm looking at the mirror and I see that I'm reading it, whether I'm physically reading it or not, and so you're constantly drilling that in when it's on your mirror, on a sticky note, whatever. Speaker 1: Yeah, I have a couple on my mirror. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: I have a whole left side of my mirror is covered in sticky notes. Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's a good idea. It really is. Speaker 1: Here's the thing is we all know that what you think about you bring about and the energy you put out, you're going to get back. And so, as your energy gets better, you know you you probably, along the way, have been thinking to yourself I just want some good friends, I want people like me, I want to be around those that think the way I do. Speaker 2: Yeah, so how would you change that into the now positive? Speaker 1: You change your energy and the energy brings it to you. No, with the words, I have good friends. Speaker 2: And then bring in some appreciation. That helps kind of speed it up. I am so grateful now that I have great friends. Yeah, I like it. I'm so happy and grateful now that I have a beautiful body. I'm so happy and grateful now that I have a beautiful body. I'm so happy and grateful now that I have a shit ton of money. Speaker 1: I guess you say I have a beautiful body. Would you hold it against me? Remember that old song? Speaker 2: Hold your ears alert. Speaker 1: I'll cut that out. Don't worry, it's my singing and it's terrible. Speaker 2: It's my singing and I sing beautifully. Now I don't really want to sing ? Speaker 1: good, why I'm just playing. It was a joke. Speaker 2: Oh, okay. Speaker 1: You know, as you develop and you get your affirmations and your positive energy change changes. Your energy that you put out into the universe will start attracting those people to you. Yeah, and we get it. All the time was have random people walk in there. For a long time we thought to ourselves I never, I'll never forget where this happened. Actually, we were like we don't really. Are we alone in this world? Are we the only ones that think the way we think? And you said we were in Idaho. Speaker 2: Idaho Udaho. Speaker 1: We were in Boise, idaho, and you said, I guess, if we keep thinking that it's going to be true, yeah, and that stuck in my head. You're, we keep thinking that it's going to be true. Yeah, and that stuck in my head . You're right, we keep thinking that's going to be true. And so we just started doing us being us. And the next thing, you know, like every day we meet somebody somewhere that thinks just like we do. Speaker 2: Right and just will randomly start conversating and chatting, talking it up. Speaker 1: Just randomly walk into your office. You don't know who they are, but they think the way we do. Speaker 2: Yeah, happened just yesterday at the doctor's office . Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it did yeah. At the receptionist, yeah, that was a good interaction and as you get those in, it changes your relationship with a lot of things like, for example, we're going to talk about belongings so right, quick. Speaker 2: Another thing that you can do is you can ask the universe, or your counsel, whatever you call it, your god, show me how I can make this true , show me how to make this true and then wait for the answer. Okay, whatever the statement is , Okay, so anything. Yeah. Speaker 1: Okay. Speaker 2: If you want more friends and you're saying to yourself, you know, I have more friends now, but it's not quite true because you don't get to witness it in your reality now, then you can say okay, universe, show me how I can make this true. And then you'll have that inspirational thought. You'll get a phone call and somebody will say hey, can you do this? Can you come meet me? My car's broke down. And then you meet up and then they're maybe like okay, you know what, let's stop by here. I've got to talk to a friend. Next thing, you know you're around a group of people and make good friends out of it. You just never know what the universe is going to orchestrate for you. Speaker 1: I think the biggest part of that is to open up your awareness too. Speaker 2: Yep. Speaker 1: Be aware of your surroundings and the people around you, because a lot of times when we get into that low negative vibration it lowers us so much that we quit seeing the people around us that think the way we think. Speaker 2: Yeah. Speaker 1: Because I really think that's what happened to us . When I got in that little trap, I'd say me more than you probably. Yeah, because I really think that's what happened to us when I got in that little trap. Yeah, I'd say me more than you probably. Speaker 2: And here's the good evidence of how that really is a true statement. Whenever, like, you want to buy a car and you decide okay, I'm going to buy a yellow Jeep. Yeah, then, all of a sudden, what do you start seeing everywhere? Speaker 1: Yellow. Speaker 2: Jeeps, especially after you buy it. Yeah, after you buy, it is when you really see them Then, when you've actually manifested it into your reality and lined with that frequency and brought it into your reality where you can touch it, taste it, smell it, then, for sure. You are seeing yellow Jeeps everywhere. Speaker 1: I didn't see a single yellow Jeep until we bought a yellow Jeep. Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean we were looking at Jeeps and didn't see a single yellow Jeep, until we bought a yellow Jeep. Speaker 1: Yeah. And so I mean we were looking at Jeeps, yeah, and didn't see a yellow Jeep. Nope, we saw that one JK, but it was all banged up and it was old. Speaker 2: But it wasn't yellow. Speaker 1: Well, I guess you're right, it wasn't yellow. What color was it? Speaker 2: I don't even remember it was kind of a tanny, yeah, I guess it could. Speaker 1: Is that a color? I wonder where that's at in the crayon box. What color is your Jeep, tanny? I guess that's on the yellow spectrum. So I lost my train of thought. Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I just needed to put that in there. That's okay as an example. Speaker 1: So, as you develop your energy and you've created a better environment, you attract friends and now you've opened your awareness. You need to open your awareness up and become more aware of the things that are being brought to you and your surroundings. Pay attention, pay attention. Speaker 2: Yeah, to simplify it. Speaker 1: And then, like I said a minute ago, the next part of it Pay attention, yeah, to simplify it. And then, like I said a minute ago, the next part of this I think we should push into is let's talk about material things . Speaker 2: Hey guys, this is the end of part one. Relationships Under the how Big Is Yours? Title. Stay tuned for part two coming your way. Thanks, like. Subscribe, love ya. Speaker 1: Thank you.